Post # 1
I thought eloping would be the easy route, but jeeze this is soo stressful.
i don’t have a dress, not sure which direction to even go in. I’m afraid of ordering online and having the dress look terrible on me. I’m afraid of going into a store like David’s bridal and feeling broke as hell..
since we can’t afford a wedding we decided to elope, just Fi our daughter and I. The most important part of that date should be us, but I really want to capture those memories and we have so little time that I doubt we will even find a photographer (especially one thats not over priced in NYC)
the little details like a veil, makeup, hair, shoes etc have all been un thought of.
and on top of it all my mother wants my whole family to go. What the point in that? i could see if it were two or three people going but even my immediate family is to big. She doesn’t get that we’re just going to city hall. Ugh!!! Shoot me
Post # 3
@Marylove_xo: Well, your date is a weekday (tuesday) so a photographer may we willing to cut you deal especially since it will be short and simple. Call up a few lower end photos immediately.
As far as a dress, go online to David’s and look at their clearance dresses, then call the store to see if they have it in their stock. You can find off the rack dresses for $100-$300. Or you could just go in and them your budget. Craigslist is also an option to…you can find a dress, veil, etc.
You can buy cute, affordable shoes at Ross, Marshalls or TJ Max. Or online if you know your size and do it right away.
You need to do this ASAP though because you will likely need alterations and those can take a few weeks.
It’s up to you on the family attending, but my friend did this and she had about 20 people in the court room as the judge married them. Then they went to lunch afterward. She said it helped her “feel” like a wedding, but was much more affordable. Rather than just signing a certificate, you can do the ceremony with a judge/magistrate for like $75 (depends on state) then it’s not as awkward to have guests.
Then you could get a cute pic like this…
Post # 4
Nordstroms had some good options and modcloth too! Why not go to city hall (by yourself) and have a family dinner, potluck?
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Maybe look online for a dress, that’s what i did though i just wanted a short one.
Me and my fiance wanted a simple courtwedding but then his parents and my parents and grandparents and some others wanted to go so I guess they’re going I’m very shy and I just wanted to be us two but I’ll just deal with it. We’re getting married next week but didn’t consider a photographer (I’m very shy) but feel i might regret it
Post # 6
Photographer: Find a budding young student photographer! In a city like NYC, you have so many resources at your disposal. Try contacting a local college to see if they can send out a message about your wedding.
Dress: If you feel intimidated by bridal shops, try shopping at mall stores. White is really in this year, and there are tons of white, short dresses that are fairly affordable. When you’re eloping, you don’t necessarily need a big/traditional/expensive ball gown.
Veil: Do you really need one? This is a commonly overpriced item. You can try to DIY with a hair comb and some tulle from the fabric store, or you can get a used one. If you go the used route, I suggest choosing a style that isn’t floor length to ensure that you’ll have a clean veil.
Makeup: Why not DIY? There are tons of Youtube videos out there that teach you how to do dramatic, special event makeup. With some drugstore makeup and brushes, you can easily make this happen. Just make sure not to choose a foundation with SPF so the flash doesn’t wash you out.
Hair: Ditto above. DIY with Youtube videos.
Shoes:This is the easiest part IMO, probably because I’m a total shoe fiend and can easily find a shoe that I love. If you’re really struggling in terms of budget, can you wear a pair that you already own? I’ve seen tutorials online that show you how to glitter the heel of a pump to jazz it up and hide any scuff marks. If you do have money for shoes, discount stores like Marshall’s and TJ Maxx have good, inexpensive options.
If you don’t mind, can you share your budget and your personal style? I’d hate for you to feel like your wedding day isn’t coming together because of that, but it’s hard to give you specific advice without knowing more.
Post # 7
@atreyu547: im the same with shyness, and on top of that I’m plus size so I’m supper self conscious . But I really wanted to remember these moments. Anyway I wish you luck on your wedding day, and off you do decide to take some pics post thI’d. I’d love to see them 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
@harperlynn: I got my dress from modcloth! Lol also maybe shopruche.com I would’ve gotten my dress from there hadthe one I really liked not been sold out yet ;-(
Post # 9
@jayjaybee: I’ve contacted a few photographers but the cheapest is 500 for three hours :/
but I guess that’s not that bad. And thanks for your advice, I will be heading to David’s bridal tomorrow. That picture is really sweet by the way, exactly the kind of memories I want of mine.
Post # 10
@somethingaquamarine: o my your Like my fairy godmother lol (sorry I watch a lot of disney with my little princess) thank you so much for all your advice.
ok so in total I’d say my budget is around 800 maybe 900, which has to include what to wear for Fi and self. And like I mentioned the one thing I do not want to completely sacrifice are the pictures. I’ve considered contacting a photagraphy student of some sort but I have no clue on how to find any. Make up and hair most likely will be diy, for cost reasons like you mentioned YouTube is a lifesaver. And yea I’m open to many ideas so please any more suggestions would be highly appreciated!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
I agree that you don’t need a veil. I’m choosing not to have one for my wedding.
Post # 12
@Marylove_xo: I’m not familiar with NYC, so I don’t know of any colleges (aside from the big name ones) in that area. Here is a list of the top fine arts programs in America: http://grad-schools.usnews.rankingsandreviews.com/best-graduate-schools/top-fine-arts-schools/fine-arts-rankings.
You can then go to those websites and look for a photography department. For example, CUNY-Hunter is ranked #13 in the nation in fine arts. I went to their website and found a “Contact Us” section: http://www.hunter.cuny.edu/art/studio-art/contact-us. You could put together a letter listing the specifics and your expectations (time and location of your ceremony, total time the photographer is expected to work, amount of pay) and ask if the department head could email the students or allow you to post a flyer in the school.
You can also go online to newyork.craigslist.org and search for “Wedding Photographer.” Make sure to ask for a portfolio so you know what you’re getting!
As for hair, this Youtuber seems to be really popular: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2FbDPZNUpus.
For eye makeup, I like this look: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VeUa-qC6XKU.
Post # 13
http://www.tradesy.com/weddings/bridal-veils/ – Used to be Recycled Bride – there’s veils there from $10-$100. Ebay is always an option too.
New York Institute of Photography http://www.nyip.com, School of Visual Arts http://www.sva.edu/undergraduate/photography, Parsons http://www.newschool.edu/parsons/, CUNY http://www.cuny.edu. I’d call first, find out who you should contact and either call or email with what you’re looking for. They’ll be able to send you a list of students that are interested, and they’ll get you their portfolio.
Men’s Wearhouse is having their BOGO sale right now, so that’s an option. Otherwise, I’d check out Burlington Coat Factory, TJ Maxx, Marshalls (though those only really work if he’s an average size, they’re pretty limited on talls).
DB is a good place to start, they’ll certainly have dresses in your price range. You can also check out Ebay, write down the style # and size of a few that you like and see what’s available.
Get some pretty ribbon from JoAnne or Michaels and a bunch of seasonal flowers from the local grocery flowers. Tie with ribbon, you’ve got a bouquet for under $15. You can probably even get a mini version for your daughter.
Post # 14
do a craigslist post “looking for photography student”, get a dress of the rack, get a blowout that morning, do your own makeup, and you’re more than ready!
Post # 15
AC Moore has veils for like $15 if you have a store near you plus they always have coupons. Try David’s cause they usually have off the rack dresses for cheap, if not a department store might have something. Shoes – Payless baby! Photographer – def try to have one, maybe they’d be willing to do just 2 hrs? Family – maybe if your mom wants to host a bbq afterwards that’d be a way to include them. You could elope and then just go over afterwards (but tell her you want nothing to do with the planning!). Also if you want a bouquet you can just buy flowers at the grocery store that morning, just wrap with some craft wire & a ribbon and you’re good to go.
Post # 16
@Marylove_xo: I have this dress in black. It is incredibly flattering:
This is lovely, too:
Also (though these might be slightly over budget, still beautiful and not crazy expensive ):
Hope that helps! You can get rush orders from these places, I believe. Also, google coupon codes for them!