(Closed) Elopement? Not sure if that’s the right word…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Bluespurrs wore victorian boots with her wedding gown, not sure if that’s what you mean. I wouldn’t consider that an elopement, just an intimate wedding, like you said.

Post # 4
1074 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No, eloping to me is when you “escape” to get married.  Typically without any guests at all.


I think that sounds like a smart idea to me.  Maybe some time down the road when you both have more money, you can have a reception party that you can invite all of your guests to.

Post # 5
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

In my mind eloping would be running off to get married without telling anyone before hand.

What you’re talking about sounds more like an intimate ceremony.  My cousin had a very intimate ceremony — parents, grandparents and siblings only.  Afterwards they had a big reception. 

As to the boots.  I have a friend that wore regular cowboy boots with her dress.  It made for some cute pictures and the shoes didn’t show in any of the other pictures.

Post # 6
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am having an “elopement” as well and I am not telling anyone who is not in attendance until after the deed is done. We plan on sending out wedding announcements after the fact.

Post # 7
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I wouldn’t necessarily consider it an elopement but I still think its an okay way to go. Just plan the wedding the way you want, inviting who you want, if people question why they weren’t invited, let them know it is becase you wanted a small wedding.

Post # 8
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I would keep all of the wedding planning on the down low, especially if it’s only going to be immediate family, and then afterwards send out a nice announcement. That way people wouldn’t feel left out before hand and you won’t get harrassed, and after the deed is done you can just apologize and explain that with all you could manage was a little, intimate affair. Otherwise, no need to explain yourself! I think you’re intimate wedding sounds fabulous, mine was much larger then I wanted.

Post # 9
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

we eloped – my mum and his folks new but i didnt tell anyone else, oh – hubby told his work friends but i dont know them so it didnt affect us.  we flew off to paupa new guinea to be married and we mailed everyone on our list a “message in a bottle” themed annoucement telling them we have taken off to be married and when we got home there were a number of congrat cards in the mail which was nice.

a few months after the wedding we did have a big at home catered lunch party that everyone enjoyed and at a fraction of the cost

whatever you decide im sure will be good – make the decisions for yourself and your Fiance. personally i wasnt prepared to wait around and not be married so instead of a december wedding (in an aussie summer-what WAS i thinking) we had a june wedding


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