Post # 1
So, I’m newly engaged (4 days) and we talked a little bit about possible dates yesterday. Neither of us is big on being the center of attention, and we have a ton of things to work around calendar-wise in 2015. I’m leaning toward an elopement with just him, me, and my 9 year old daughter in a park with our officiant and a photographer.
Even though part of me wants a small wedding, I just can’t even imagine taking on any kind of planning on top working full-time, going to nursing school full-time, possibly selling my home, and moving my daughter and myself to FI’s house.
I don’t want to push getting married to 2016 (when I would have more time to plan/more venues would be available), but I don’t want to regret not having a wedding either.
Post # 2
Elope! Make it special though- bring the photographer, go out to dinner (plan it though, don’t just go to a restaurant with no prior plans), and go on a trip for your honeymoon (or just stay in a nice hotel near where you live).
Post # 3
If you are already jumping back and forth with it I’d say have a small wedding. It doesn’t need to be anything big. U can still go to the park and have your small ceremony with a photographer and family.
Post # 4
I wanted to elope but also didn’t want to regret not having a wedding with my family and friends present, so we had a small wedding. It definitely doesn’t have to take up all your time. Like a PP said, you can still do it at a park. All you’d really need is the marriage license.
Post # 5
Elope elope EEEELOOOOPPPE LOL. You wont be sorry. You can do anything you want with a certificate in hand. It opens you up to a world of possibilities later for a party.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - Sedona Golf Resort
I say a small wedding. You don’t have to do anything elaborate but something that honors your commitment and marriage would be lovely. I have 2 daughters that were part of my wedding (9 & 16) and it was just important for me to have a wedding that honored my new husband, our marriage and us as a new family. To include family and friends was acknowledging that this was about more than him and I, we are part of a village and the love and support of family was important not just that day but will be part of our lives together.
My daughters can look back on that day with pride and as a model for what I want for them and so much more.
Post # 7
I was debating between the two too, but decided to do a small wedding instead. We will have 13 people (including the two of us) for our ceremony and brunch/lunch reception, of our parents, and best friends.
We decided that if we elope, we would probably regret not having our parents to witness our moment!
Post # 8
Thank you everyone…I’m still debating. I guess Fiance and I will just have to discuss it a little more. There are competing pros and cons to both right now. We’ll just have to go over the list again.
Post # 9
Love your elopement idea! That’s what I wanted! Elopmenet with immediete family, eat at a restaurant then go on a huge honeymoon. I HATE being the centre of attentino. My fiance has a large immediete family though and the Trump Hotel worked out better for us so now its 40 guests with dinner and dancing (which I really didnt want). We figure we get the ceremony we want out of it then we can always leave and go to our hotel room later if everyone else wants to party.
It is ending up being a lot more money and work than initially planned. That is for sure!
Post # 10
I’m having a small wedding- hopefully with about 40 people. I ve seen several weddings on ” A practical wedding” that were held in a rstaurant. advantage is its all inclusive – no need to worry about linens, flowers, etc. Check out APW- they show lots of alternatives to the WIC of a wedding. I found it helpful.
Post # 11
Why not just have a very intimate wedding? That way you can get the best of both worlds.
You can invite up to 30 people out for lunch after your ceremony and still save a lot of money.
Post # 12
So, we decided to have a small wedding. We have already got several vendors booked and I’m actually excited about having ‘our day’! Thank you all for your thoughts!