Post # 1
So FH and I are planning to do a private city hall wedding in a couple months and we’re really excited about it. We would like to have an elopement party next spring to celebrate with our loved ones, but I’m wondering how I should present this party to potential vendors. We’re looking at farms to have a BBQ + booze + dance floor with a DJ. To all of you who’ve done this before or are in the process, how did you approach this? It’s not exactly a wedding and not exactly a vows renewal so I’m scratching my head over this. Maybe just saying “elopement party” would do? Thoughts? Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
It’s not really, though. It will be 8-10 months after the ceremony, for one. And we’re not doing a sit-down dinner or any traditional wedding-related things ie cake cutting or bouquet tosses or speeches. Doesn’t “reception” sort of connotate full-on wedding festivities?
Post # 4
Anniversary party? Even if it isn’t on your actual anniversary, 8-10 months out seems close enough to me.
Post # 5
taramonster : anything after the ceremony part is considered a reception. I’ve seen Pinterest ideas where they label it as an I do BBQ. I would not call it an elopement party though.
Post # 6
taramonster : “I’m wondering how I should present this party to potential vendors” — Just tell them it’s a party. If they need to know more, they’ll ask.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
taramonster : It is a reception. You do it how you want. We are not doing the bouquet toss or garter toss, we are not doing the bride and groom games. You just tell your dj what you are doing and what you are not doing so he can announance certain things or not. We are having buffet style so I would think your bbq would be kind of the same thing. It’s all about what you guys want. But it is a reception. A reception is to celebrate a special event.
Post # 8
Our friends did this exact same thing. They rented out a restaurant and had food stations set up, a dj and a dance floor, but didn’t wear wedding attire or have flowesr, bouquet toss, etc. I think they just called it a party, but yeah I think it would be classified as a reception.
Post # 9
Thanks @Daisy_Mae. The one venue I’m particularly interested in requires a phone call or an email for more info (don’t they all?). I think if I just explained we eloped and were looking to do a less formal party to celebrate our marriage that would likely be sufficient.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2020 - Scotland
taramonster : my fiancé and I are doing the same thing!!! Except we decided to combine our honeymoon and wedding ceremony all into one, so we’re getting married in Scotland next summer and throwing a party a few months after. We are telling our venue that we are having a dinner party with dancing.
Post # 11
Firstly, congratulations, secondly it sounds like it will be fun. And thirdly, l don’t know that you need to ‘explain’ anything to vendors do you? I have heard the word wedding attached to anything puts prices up, so maybe post- elopement might too.
I would just book the place you want with the amenities you want. If the vendors ask in friendly sort of way what the occasion is then you can tell them it’s a post elopement reception if you care to.
Post # 12
taramonster : Don’t mention wedding to food vendors or too many other vendors. Only the DJ. The price increase for weddings is insane.
Post # 13
Thank you so much, ladies! Yeah I have also heard the ‘W’ word drives prices through the roof, which we’re trying to avoid. Good tip on avoiding saying that to food vendors.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I vote to call it an anniversary party. It will be nearly a year after you guys got married, and you’ll avoid the unnecessary up-charges that come with the wedding word. You’re having a celebration of your marriage, which is basically what an anniversary party is.