Post # 1
We’re planning on eloping and only having immediate family members then going to dinner afterwards. However we’d like to have an extremely casual bonfire/weenie/s’more roast to celebrate it at a later date with friends and other family. Does this get together need to be the day after or can it be a week or two after? TIA!
Post # 2
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
I think it can be whenever you want but should probably be within a few months of the date of your elopement to be relevant to celebrating it. If it was a year later it might seem kind of odd. We eloped and had a celebration just under 2 months later. By the time everyone got the elopement announcement/invitation it was just over a month away.
Post # 3
I think it’s kind of rude to invite people over to celebrate the wedding you didn’t invite them to.
Post # 4
We plan on it being just a very casual bonfire. We also plan on emphasizing no gifts, cards, etc.
Post # 5
There is nothing wrong with having a reception at a later date following an intimate ceremony. That means keeping the ceremony truly intimate. Immediate family only would certainly qualify.
Post # 6
I don’t think it matters too much, but it might feel more meaningful to people the closer it is to when you actually got married. Within a week or two seems fine to me, as it will still be a new exciting thing. I wouldn’t wait much longer than that.
Post # 7
We are doing this except no family at the ceremony. We’re doing this because I have social anxiety and would prefer no one watching. We are getting married in Vancouver BC so family can’t come anyways. Then hopping on an Alaskan cruise the next day. We get married in 3 days!!! Our “reception” will be the end of November and will just be a fancy sit down dinner and drinks for about 75 people.
i don’t think it would be rude to invite them… You’re stil inviting them to celebrate. This is how you want your welding, just go for it!
Post # 8
It is. It’s going to be moms, dads, brothers, sister, and our son 🙂
Post # 9
We had a destination wedding in May with 10 guest. We are having our reception/housewarming on Saturday and will have around 50 people and catered bbq!
Post # 10
First you aren’t eloping, you are having an intimate wedding because you are inviting people.
You can have a reception/party to celebrate that at a later date.
I guess my question is why? If you want to celebrate with guests then why not just have a wedding? You can still have the exact same type of party/reception so it doesn’t have to cost more.
Personally for me the point of going to a wedding is to see the couple get married and share in that. A post wedding reception is not going to be a high priority for me and if I am invited to someone’s actual event (graduation, wedding, anniversary) on the same day then I am going to prioritise that and attend.
Post # 11
Having a party weeks or months later is a great idea, and I’m doing that too. We are going to combine it with a housewarming and my fiancé’s 50th bday and request no gifts.
What difference does it make whether party guests were at the actual wedding?
Graduations are usually limited to a few people to attend…does that mean you can’t invite 50 people to the party? That reasoning makes no sense. Same for anniversary party. Should you not invite people who weren’t at the original wedding?
There is a huge difference between a wedding and eloping with a party sometime in the future.
And it’s not rude to ask people to celebrate with you!