Elopement then Wedding … COVID?

posted 1 year ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

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@Magoo:  Lots of people are doing it here at the weddingbees and in real life. I don’t think people would have a problem and will understand because of these crazy times. I would even be fine with this even if corona did not exist. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

I love the idea of having a special intimate elopement now! I understand postponing the large party but wouldn’t want to put my marriage on hold for that long! I don’t have suggestions for an announcement about it but I would tell people and be upfront! People have to be understand during this time and personally I think it’s sweet when couples still get married 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

If you want to get married now, you should just do it. I don’t think people should hold off on getting married just because of Covid. Have the enlopement ceremony now and you can have a party later!! 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

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@Magoo:  I’ve definitely seen a lot of Bees are doing this and know some friends IRL, too. Haven’t really seen negative reactions. People will understand and if they don’t there’s something wrong with them. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

My friends went ahead and got married on their date with only the officient, parents of the bride, parents of the groom, a photographer and a Zoom camera operator present. The rest of the guests attended virtually. The ceremony was beautiful! Their date was important to them as was getting married. A reception is planned for next year and the bride is saving her wedding dress for that. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think most people take issue with the lying/not telling people.

Most people I know IRL are getting married on their original date with a plan to hold a large party next year. My cousin has already dubbed their reception “the best one year anniversary party” which we are all looking forward too.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I was considering it (ran into too many snags along the way). But Honestly, I think it’s a great idea. there’s nothing wrong with it either way. I’d say it’s probably the most popular option actually. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I think it is fine to get married now and have a reception or vow renewal later.  And if people aren’t accepting of that, they’re probably not the people you’d want at your celebration anyway!

Like a PP, I do draw the line at concealing elopements/pretending you’re not married though, because it’s basically lying to friends & family.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper

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@Magoo:  

Absolutely, it is a sensible thing to do, and like a pp said, l don’t have a problem with it anyway covid19  or not. I can see that for many people an intimate tiny ceremony, maybe just the two of you , then a party later is a really good option, esp if one or both has a problem being a focus of attention.

The only issue is – as always – not being honest with guests about being already married for the second celebration. 

Post # 11
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Newbee

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It is a very practical thing to do. After all, it comes down to what it’s all about, your love right? The party can always come later. Sounds like you all are just being smart about it. 

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Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I think most couples,are doing the legal work now and wedding later. That is what we’re looking at too. 

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper

That’s what I’d do on your place. Just don’t pretend not to be already married. That’s not cool no matter what the situation. 

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