Post # 1
Hi people, my fiance and I decided that if we get married someday we would elope. But I was wondering… If the only people present are my fiance, his best man, my best friend (witness) and I, can we go for a “church wedding”? Or would it be a bit awkward? I “need” to elope and I want my fiance to have a word to say about OUR wedding, and the best compromise we found was this one: I decide of the elopement and he chooses the kind of ceremony.
Post # 3
@Marissa007: I went to a church wedding before where there were just a few people there.. so I don’t see any reason why you couldn’t do that if you wanted to.
Post # 4
As long as the officiant is fine with it, I don’t see why there would be a problem!
Post # 5
If by “church” wedding you mean the officiant adds a *religious* component, regardless of location? Or do you mean takes place in an actual church?
It can vary…. but the answer to your question is yes.
You can get married in a *church* because that is the only location available and have a JP marry you with no religious content in your ceremony (provided the *church* would allow it).
you can get married in the backyard and have a religious ceremony because your officiant (and you with your vows, music etc) adds the religious component.
I was married before in Jamaica in a gazebo on the beach. I was married by a priest, and there was a religous component to our vows and ceremony (ie – the priest spoke about God and the first wedding in Cana etc).
This time we are getting married in a chapel (not a church). But there will be NO religious content and we are writing our own vows. This chapel can handle an “elopment” with just Bride and Groom, officiant and 2 witnesses (provided by them or by you). or a 200 person ceremony. Can be religous….. or not.
Just work with your location and determine what’s available.
Post # 6
Some JPs will also add a religious component if you’d like. I know when I was researching them, several said they’d have no problem reading scripture, etc.
Post # 7
By “elopement,” do you mean “running off to do an unplanned, unannounced marriage and then tell everybody afterwards”? (i.e. what elopement used to mean back in the day) Or do you just mean “a very small wedding with only the officiant, legal witnesses, and maybe immediate family present”? (i.e. what elopement seems to sometimes mean nowadays)
Many church weddings (depends on the denomination though) require a certain amount of lead time and marriage preparation classes, etc., so in that sense, you can’t really do an elopement in the first sense of the word in some churches. However, you can always arrange to have a tiny, simple church wedding in the second sense. Not super common, but definitely always possible.
Post # 8
My dad and his 2nd wife got married in the church with just me and my grandmother there.
Post # 9
I always thought the idea of a church wedding with just our parents, MOH and Best man would be romantic.
Post # 10
Ok thanks everyone 🙂
@KCKnd2: I mean we will tell everyone after the wedding, people know we are engaged but for personal reasons I need to have only the “necessary” persons with me (I mean my fiance, the 2 witnesses, someone to marry us and I).
Post # 11
@Marissa007: you can totally do a small church ceremony like a pp said, since it’s not like a traditional elopment in the sense that you’re running off and getting married tomorrow and you have time to prep you should be more than fine!
Post # 12
@Woodstock: Let’s hope so! Thanks for your answer 🙂
Post # 13
Aren’t Vegas wedding basically what you are describing. I know someone who got married in Vegas in a church quickie thing and they had only a few people there. It was fine.
Post # 14
@Marissa007: I think you’ll find that some religious elements can be worked into elopements.
I’ve been doing a bit of research re: marriage commissioners/officiants in my area and some do religious ceremonies. I don’t know if you can do it in a church (probably, I don’t see why not). I’d get in touch w. a few officiants and see what they say.
Post # 15
@canarydiamond: Alright thanks 🙂
@Mrs Christopher: Oops I have to say I didn’t think about weddings in Las Vegas! Thanks for your answer