Eloping and trying to explain to other friends and family

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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4073 posts
Honey bee

Coco Brown Walker :  just go do it. Don’t tell them first. Because if you tell them first, they’re gonna try to convince you to allow them to be there. I’d just elope and then tell everyone afterwards that you did, and explain your reasoning. 

Post # 3
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639 posts
Busy bee

If you want to elope, elope, tell people afterwards. You don’t owe anyone an explanation or have to give reasons.

Post # 4
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9898 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

You break it to them after the fact. 

Post # 5
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927 posts
Busy bee

Coco Brown Walker :  thought the definition of elopement is when u run away, get married and when u return nobody can do anything about it anymore? Do a huge BBQ at ur backyard after you return as post celebration. Cost less and more fun 😘

Post # 6
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1842 posts
Buzzing bee

I absolutely agree. If you go to the lake then do just that. all you need is someone to marry you, and maybe a friend to take pictures / also be a witness. (our photographer is also going to be our witness, apparently they are asked that all the time) 

Then tell the rest of the family when you get back 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Coco Brown Walker :  awesome! Make sure u get some amazing photos, maybe professional photographer and videographer. Then u can show the whole ceremony to ur families. Hopefully they will be happier to see u both r happy. Congratulations!

Post # 9
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9333 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

elopements are sudden and secretive.  if you want to elope just do it.  everyone will get over it.

Post # 10
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105 posts
Blushing bee

Eloping was the best decision I could have made. There was so much drama regarding family wedding planning starting LITERALLY THE DAY I GOT ENGAGED, when I didnt even want to start the planning process. It was ridiculous. I told my family before and I said “Everyone was trying to sway me into where and when I was going to have a wedding before I even wanted to start planning, if it was this bad now, I didn’t want to even see what it was going to be like a few months down the road when I really was planning.”

They got over it! Our families are scattered all over the US, its all way too expensive for everyone. 

Post # 11
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9 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Just go do it. It’s about you and your partner and no one else. I mean yea there will be some sucky aftermath but I mean theres always drama not matter what you do right? Wedding or eloping there will always be somone unhappy, but do what will make you both the happiest. Thats all that matters in the end. And if someone gets very upset then we’re they happy for you to begin with? You guys do you 🙂

Post # 12
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295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

We’re eloping and not a soul knows it – honestly, it is the best decision we’ve made so far together. There’s no drama, no “what about us!!” moments from people who feel entitled to have an opinion. If you’re going to elope, just do it – the minute you let people know, is the minute that they’ll still want a say. Better to ask for forgiveness than permission. Good luck!

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