Post # 1
Hi! First post here. I’m actually not engaged but we are getting ready for all of that. I don’t want a big wedding- we can’t really afford it and my Dad passed away so I don’t want to deal with walking down the aisle and those emotions, plus I feel like I have way too much anxiety for that. I want to have just our families (immediate) at a courthouse or some small venue. My sister has mentioned still having a bridal shower. Is that tacky since we aren’t having a formal wedding to invite them to?
Post # 2
Everyone invited to the bridal shower has to be invited to the wedding, so if you aren’t inviting them to the wedding don’t invite them to the shower. I don’t think it’s tacky unless you invite people you shouldn’t.
Post # 3
The above is the stock answer you will get. However, there is nothing wrong with a group of people who know they are not invited to the wedding hosting a shower in your honor. The idea and invitations must come from them though, not your sister.
For example, the women in my childhood neighbourhood had a tradition of hosting a shower for every girl who grew up there. They held one for me even though they knew they would not be invited to the wedding.
Other examples of host groups would be your church members, members of your book club etc.
Post # 4
I agree with Julies. Another example would be co-workers.