Post # 1
I haven’t posted in a while because the amount of family drama kind of sqaushed my walking down the aisle dream. My fiance and I have decided to get married just the two of us with a rabbi (maybe with moh and bm) on the beach at a nice resort or on a public beach. I am hoping laguna. Anyhow We will have a luxurious weekend honeymoon in an amazing hotel and enjoy our nuptials. My mother who is in support of the wedding, unlike my father, has agreed to throw an engagement party with my immediate family and close friends 40-50. It will be like pre wedding elopement party. We wil state in the invitation that we are having a private wedding just the two of us…and this engagement party is a way for us to celebrate with our loved ones. I am wondering if we can register since we are throwing this very nice party for everyone? It would be great since we really cannot afford any of the stuff that we would register for. Anyhow sorry for the long posting. Any advice on elopement packages would be great too, or your elopment experience or ideas!!!
Thanks and hope you all are enjoying yourselves wherever you are in the process
Post # 3
I would maybe consider doing it after the wedding and calling it your “at home reception.” More and more Destination Wedding or eloping couples are doing this and I feel like it lends itself towards gift giving, whereas an engagement party is typically a purely social event without the anticipation of gifts. Either is kind of a “gray area” since traditional wedding gifts usually come from guests who were invited to the wedding. I feel that the AHR may be more of what you’re looking for. Plus, you could show pics of your beautiful private ceremony!
Post # 4
@byrdi: I think when others have asked about similar situations most people say it is tacky to want gifts at an engagement party but you can do whatever you want and is accepted in your social circle accepts. Here in the NY area I dont see people doing this but if it is your close fam and friends maybe it is ok in the Cali area?
Post # 5
THIS. OP you need to have some sort of at home reception.
Post # 6
Thanks guys I eking of agree with registering being tacky perhaps an after party 😉