(Closed) Eloping- family upset

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 4
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838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

You do whatever you and your Fiance want. Your mother will get over it. This doesn’t require a bunch of conversation. You’ve already told your mother what you intend to do. End of discussion right there.

Post # 5
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127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m eloping as well.  The difference is that my family has come to expect that I will do what I want (I’m a very non-traditional person), so they didn’t even voice concerns (they may be thinking it).  Utlimately, it’s your day and it’s about your comfort and happiness. If people can’t understand that, shame on them.  You can’t spend your life living for other people. 

Post # 6
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9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@aquaelle:  Is this your first weddding?  Are you an only child?  The first child to get married?

Mom is going to be upset if you said yes to any of the above questions.  Should that change your plans?  No.  In all honesty it’s best not to tell friends and family you are eloping until you return from getting married.  There are going to be hurt feelings because some people think weddings are a time for families to come together and eloping leaves them out.

Give your mom time to get used to the idea.  She will have to get over it.  Move forward with your current plans.

Post # 9
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1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@aquaelle:  I would do exactly what you have planned.

Post # 10
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12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Sorry your elopement is getting stressful! Good luck!

 

Post # 11
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@aquaelle:  how exciting for you… i am doing the exact same thing…. just me, my husband to be… and my 3 kids….. his friend is a pastor, my friend is a photographer….. and I think my kids can be witnesses?  i need to figure that out.  my kids are older though…. 15, 17, and 21. 

about your mom…. i do believe she will get over it.  Tell her you are wanting to focus on just you and your kids… the creation of a new family….. that’s what I’m telling others.  Slightly “easier” on my part… my mom passed away and my dad…. we’re not that close.  My SO’s side…. he hasn’t been married before and you’d think his family would push for a traditional wedding, but they’re not… thankfully. 

We are going to have a family dinner at a later time….to celebrate together. 

hope it all works out with your mom. 

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