Post # 1
So background info:
when I got engaged my dear friend was really excited to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. My Fiance and I set a summer date. Had the venue booked and plans on the go. Around this time my sister got a job offer half way across the world. So my MOH offered to throw my bridal shower 10 months before the wedding so my sister could attend before she left. She would only be able to fly back for the wedding. It was amazing party. Unfortunatly, 3 months after I lost my job, my parents backed out of helping with the wedding and we had to cancel the venue. I called everyone and let them know what was happening. We arent in a finacial position to have a large wedding like we had planned and told everyone.
So here is my delema. My Fiance wants to have a small elopemnt in our backyard with just two witnesses. Then his grandparents offered to have a few guest come out for a BBQ later on, to celebrate our marriage. This would be the best option since it would cost us near to nothing (basicall food cost), but i cant help feeling guilty that I had a bridal shower. Is it wrong to elope after everyone went to the trouble for the shower? I dont want to offend anyone
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
They threw the shower, whatever happens afterwards is irrelevant. If you need to change your plans, you need to change them – anyone who gets super offended over it needs to find a different outlet for their emotional energy.
Post # 3
LoveLittleDove: you didn’t set out to elope when they had the bridal shower. your friends and relatives will/should understand that circumstances change sometimes and not hold it against you.
Post # 4
What’s done is done! You didn’t plan to have an elopement shower- life just messes up our perfect plans sometimes. tell your friend how guilty you feel- I bet she’ll say – don’t be silly, i love you and wanted to celebrate your marriage big wedding or not.
Post # 5
Who knows, they may have thrown you a shower anyway if elopement was the plan from the beginning, that happens to! I was the Maid/Matron of Honor to a friend, and one month before the wedding (after the shower), they called it off. I don’t know they ended up returning gifts, as I did not get mine back, but I didn’t care! I was just glad she realized it was a mistake before it happened. I’d feel the same if she had eloped though, I would not have been upset for giving a shower only to have them elope! Plans change, things happen, life moves on.