(Closed) Eloping, feeling guilty for Bridal Shower?

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
Member
1247 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

They threw the shower, whatever happens afterwards is irrelevant. If you need to change your plans, you need to change them – anyone who gets super offended over it needs to find a different outlet for their emotional energy.

Post # 3
Member
1283 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

LoveLittleDove:  you didn’t set out to elope when they had the bridal shower. your friends and relatives will/should understand that circumstances change sometimes and not hold it against you. 

Post # 4
Member
9494 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

What’s done is done! You didn’t plan to have an elopement shower- life just messes up our perfect plans sometimes. tell your friend how guilty you feel- I bet she’ll say – don’t be silly, i love you and wanted to celebrate your marriage big wedding or not. 

Post # 5
Member
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Who knows, they may have thrown you a shower anyway if elopement was the plan from the beginning, that happens to!  I was the MOH to a friend, and one month before the wedding (after the shower), they called it off.  I don’t know they ended up returning gifts, as I did not get mine back, but I didn’t care!  I was just glad she realized it was a mistake before it happened.  I’d feel the same if she had eloped though, I would not have been upset for giving a shower only to have them elope!  Plans change, things happen, life moves on. 

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