Post # 1
hello! I’m new here. I’m planning an elopement for end of this year. Due to work commitments, we don’t have the time to plan a full blown wedding and our families have been quite supportive so far.
Even so, I wanted to make the elopement as special as possible, and we have planned to go overseas for it so we can do the honeymoon at the same time. For the dress, I have shopped at a couple of boutiques and tried on different styles. I have a petite boyish figure (bony shoulders, small boobs and butt, no defined waist), so sheath and mermaids look terrible on me because I don’t have any curves.
Ballgowns (that aren’t too poofy to swallow me) look better as they make my bottom half look bigger than my top half. The problem is that my consultants told me that nobody elopes in a ballgown, and certainly not overseas. It’s just too over the top, they said. Also, we are planning on an outdoor location. I don’t want to look too silly, although I suppose nobody would care! But I’ve not seen anyone done it, so I’m quite hesitant. I understand that it would be more difficult to carry it on a plane too.
Should I suck it up and get the best looking slim dress? Any advice/alternatives? Has anyone done this and found it a good idea?
Post # 2
I think it would be beneficial to contact the airline. I’d also be aware that it’ll probably need to be steamed.
Personally I wouldn’t suck it up for second choice of dress just for convenience.
Post # 3
An elopement is all about you and your fiance.
If you wanna do it in a ball gown then do it in a ball gown. I’d totally do it.
I’ve looked at a lot of elopement packages and have seen a lot of pictures of peeps having elopements with a poofy ball gown.
Post # 4
That consultant was clueless. It’s your day, do whatever makes you happy. If you go for tulle it’s going to be easy to transport and steam.
Post # 5
I had a small overseas outside wedding (just immediate family and friends) and had a ballgown…we flew Virgin Atlantic who were perfectly happy to store my dress safely on board and then I gave it an extra steam at the hotel with their professional steamer. Go with what you want!
Post # 6
It sounds to me like you are having a small destination wedding, and the good news is you can wear whatever you want to a destination wedding!
Seriously though, who the F does that consultant think she is? It’s your wedding. Do WHATEVER makes you happy.
Post # 7
Have you considered tea length wedding dresses? They add a casual flair to the A-line silhouette.
Post # 8
WEAR THE BALLGOWN !! It’s your wedding ! If you love it wear it wearing something that makes you feel special on such a happy important day won’t make you look silly 😊
Post # 9
Wear what you feel beautiful in!!
Have you considered A line as well? That’ll still give a you bit of poof at the bottom, but also won’t be so bulky to travel with.
Post # 10
Wear the ballgown. Women elope at our (gorgeous) city hall daily in ballgowns, and they all look amazing. And their photos are beautiful.
I had to take my giant ballgown on a plane and it was no big deal. I packed it in plastic in its own hard sided carry on and steamed it when I arrived at the hotel. The designers ship those dresses to stores in pretty small boxes.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
I am struggling with this too! (Micro wedding in a park without a reception-2nd wedding for both) But here’s the thing: you are hopefully only ever going to do this once. This day is the representation of your love for your partner and your promise to them to devote the rest of your days to them (and vice versa). Do you *really* want to be disappointed/preoccupied by concerns about your dress instead of the love you feel for your “the one”? Shouldn’t you dress in something that makes you feel as amazing and excited as the partner you have? Wear what makes YOU feel beautiful and amazing and reflects your feelings on this day.
Post # 12
p.s. don’t rely on being able to hang your dress or lay it across an overhead storage bin. My shop told me nightmare stories about ruined dresses when brides banked on being able to do this or brides whose dresses got torn in the closet/bin. Pack it in a rolling carry on, pay extra to get on the plane early, and steam it at your destination.