Eloping! Just looking for opinions and views :)

posted 2 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My husband and I eloped. Well I guess not technically because we told our parents and my grandma beforehand, but they still weren’t invited lol. I would do it again, each and every time. People were shocked afterwards but overall everyone was very supportive!

Post # 3
208 posts
Helper bee

We are eloping next May, (not technically as we have told everyone our plans, but no one will be at the ceremony with us). It started as a joke as I didn’t want loads of people there (I get nervous) and we were doing Vegas at some point anyway so I joked about getting married there and so history was made! 

I was nervous about telling my mum as I knew she would be a bit disappointed, as for everyone else I had no issues telling them, as I knew they would understand. My mums initial reaction was like “oh ok”, with slight disappointment like I imagined but we are having the ceremony live streamed and the usual party when we get back so she will still get to be involved and not really miss anything. She understands our choice and is happy for us. 

If you think people would be disappointed could you maybe have a small party after where you get dressed back up etc, or would your guest list issue come back. If so, maybe just private celebrations, like a meal etc with those you want to share it with. Or maybe video it? 

all the best! 

Post # 4
3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

We eloped as well. It was both our second marriage and I was (am) pregnant too, a planned pregnancy. 

My main advice would be to tell people ahead of time. A lot of family could feel blindsided after the fact. We made sure our parents, siblings, grandparents knew. My husband actually eloped “for real” the first time, ie didn’t tell anyone until after, and his mom and sisters were pretty hurt. We also sent out announcements to our loved ones as a way of including them afterwards. 

Everyone is thrilled for us, but I think being in the loop ahead of time helped with that. And the baby helps too haha. We are also planning an intimate marriage celebration next summer with our immediate families.

Post # 5
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We eloped on a mountaintop in the autumn and it was GORGEOUS! The whole process was so easy, intimate, and stress free I can’t imagine trading it in. We told some Close friends and family ahead of time which helped get everyone on board. It also helped we promised a big reception/renewal vows for everyone the following summer. I loved our big, crazy celebration (which was very similar to a more traditional wedding but with a really abbreviated ceremony) but am so glad that our marriage was performed earlier and intimately with just DH and I. They were very different experiences. We also had a photographer/witness for our elopement which I am so glad we did. The photos are such amazing memories- your plan sounds perfect!

Post # 6
382 posts
Helper bee

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alishorten444 :  Doesn’t eloping feel liberating? So excited for you! And your plan sounds awesome!

My husband and I eloped in Scotland this past April.  The only people in attendance were our officiant, the photographer, and the videographer.  The whole experience was an absolute fairy tale.  The response to our elopement was overwhelmingly positive and supportive.

Since we did not tell our families in advance, we wanted to include them in our “day” as much as possible.  To soften the blow of the surprise, we sent announcement gift crates that were opened by our families on our wedding night while we were on the phone with them.  Inside the boxes were treats, Google Cardboards, and a card with the address to our wedding website.  On the website, our families were able to see a handful of professional photographs and a 360-degree video of our ceremony almost immediately after our wedding.  (My husband made the 360-degree video with a camera we purchased.)  

For us, the boxes and the website enabled us to share our wedding in a personal and contemporaneous way from half-way across the globe.  If you are interested in seeing the website, let me know and I’ll D.M. you the link.

The other thing my husband did was put a picture of my parents inside an antique brooch that was pinned to my bouquet. Since we truly eloped, it meant a great deal to me that family was with us in spirit, even in a small way.

Congratulations again!!! 

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