Post # 1
My fella and I were planning a wedding for 2020…
Are guest lists living, breathing monsters designed to destroy relationships with people?
I hated the process and I had hardly started. We have a very limited budget and a lot of people who want to be apart of the day who aren’t able to help out financially. That said, we have decided to save everyone the pain and elope next September!
I do plan on having a professional photographer there for a witness and also because my grandmother will kill me if I don’t at least have some pictures to give her.
We plan on telling our close family and friends on Thanksgiving when we have a couple pictures on hand to share and everyone will be together.
Anyone else out out there have this plan or already eloped? What are some thoughts, family reactions, ideas you Bee’s have?
Much love ❤️🐝
Post # 2
My husband and I eloped. Well I guess not technically because we told our parents and my grandma beforehand, but they still weren’t invited lol. I would do it again, each and every time. People were shocked afterwards but overall everyone was very supportive!
Post # 3
We are eloping next May, (not technically as we have told everyone our plans, but no one will be at the ceremony with us). It started as a joke as I didn’t want loads of people there (I get nervous) and we were doing Vegas at some point anyway so I joked about getting married there and so history was made!
I was nervous about telling my mum as I knew she would be a bit disappointed, as for everyone else I had no issues telling them, as I knew they would understand. My mums initial reaction was like “oh ok”, with slight disappointment like I imagined but we are having the ceremony live streamed and the usual party when we get back so she will still get to be involved and not really miss anything. She understands our choice and is happy for us.
If you think people would be disappointed could you maybe have a small party after where you get dressed back up etc, or would your guest list issue come back. If so, maybe just private celebrations, like a meal etc with those you want to share it with. Or maybe video it?
all the best!
Post # 4
We eloped as well. It was both our second marriage and I was (am) pregnant too, a planned pregnancy.
My main advice would be to tell people ahead of time. A lot of family could feel blindsided after the fact. We made sure our parents, siblings, grandparents knew. My husband actually eloped “for real” the first time, ie didn’t tell anyone until after, and his mom and sisters were pretty hurt. We also sent out announcements to our loved ones as a way of including them afterwards.
Everyone is thrilled for us, but I think being in the loop ahead of time helped with that. And the baby helps too haha. We are also planning an intimate marriage celebration next summer with our immediate families.
Post # 5
We eloped on a mountaintop in the autumn and it was GORGEOUS! The whole process was so easy, intimate, and stress free I can’t imagine trading it in. We told some Close friends and family ahead of time which helped get everyone on board. It also helped we promised a big reception/renewal vows for everyone the following summer. I loved our big, crazy celebration (which was very similar to a more traditional wedding but with a really abbreviated ceremony) but am so glad that our marriage was performed earlier and intimately with just DH and I. They were very different experiences. We also had a photographer/witness for our elopement which I am so glad we did. The photos are such amazing memories- your plan sounds perfect!
Post # 6
Doesn’t eloping feel liberating? So excited for you! And your plan sounds awesome!
My husband and I eloped in Scotland this past April. The only people in attendance were our officiant, the photographer, and the videographer. The whole experience was an absolute fairy tale. The response to our elopement was overwhelmingly positive and supportive.
Since we did not tell our families in advance, we wanted to include them in our “day” as much as possible. To soften the blow of the surprise, we sent announcement gift crates that were opened by our families on our wedding night while we were on the phone with them. Inside the boxes were treats, Google Cardboards, and a card with the address to our wedding website. On the website, our families were able to see a handful of professional photographs and a 360-degree video of our ceremony almost immediately after our wedding. (My husband made the 360-degree video with a camera we purchased.)
For us, the boxes and the website enabled us to share our wedding in a personal and contemporaneous way from half-way across the globe. If you are interested in seeing the website, let me know and I’ll D.M. you the link.
The other thing my husband did was put a picture of my parents inside an antique brooch that was pinned to my bouquet. Since we truly eloped, it meant a great deal to me that family was with us in spirit, even in a small way.
Post # 7
haha it’s my parents and grandma that I’m debating on still… maybe I will just tell them but still not invite them 🤣❤️👏🏼
Post # 8
I definitely wouldn’t mind so many people when I can be home and cook a meal for a large group myself and host a large casual party 🙂 I could have a cute white dress or something to fit the vibe as well. Thank you for sharing!
Post # 9
I think I like the idea of letting everyone know maybe a month before so I don’t get too many people trying to dissuade me but also everyone would be in the loop… great advice bee!
Post # 10
that’s so encouraging! Thanks Bee ❤️👏🏼
Post # 11
oh that sounds absolutely amazing! I’d love the link 🙂 what a great way to share without sacrificing what you and your SO wanted! ❤️