(Closed) Eloping: Keeping the Secret

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

You’re going to Europe for two weeks, that’s your answer right there.  People won’t be surprised by a two week trip to Europe, one week is a short trip to Europe.  That way you won’t have to worry if you slip up and mention some of the European cities/countries you will be visiting.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

You don’t have to say you’re getting married and a lot of people wouldn’t expect you to get married in Europe because it’s a pain in the butt in most countries to get a marriage license.  The only ones that might suspect something are the ones that know that some European countries require you be in the country for two weeks before granting a marriage license but I highly doubt that more than one would know this and s/he probably won’t even think about it.  I only know because my FH lived in the UK during college and his dad is British so he really wanted to get married in Europe.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I guess I am confused.  I would just say you’re going on vacation to Europe for two weeks & leave it at that.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Ya tell them you are going to Europe. If they mention it being your future honeymoon spot just say you didn’t want to wait til then.

I think it would be actually weirder to lie about your destination.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Honestly,  two weeks in Europe doesn’t seem like that long. It IS Europe. My friend spent 2.5 weeks backpacking in Europe and no one questioned her.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I agree with the other PPs…don’t say anything about getting married there.  If they ask about the honeymoon, just say that you guys wanted to go sooner and now was the perfect opportunity.  I don’t think they’ll find it odd, and if they do, blah…

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

why is it a secret?

just tell them you’re going on vacation?

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d tell the truth about the trip, and, if you choose, just leave our the wedding details.  There may be some hurt feelings about being lied to after you get back, but those will go away with the excitement, I’m sure!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We’re doing almost exactly the same thing. I would just say your going to Europe but I definetly understand that it can be very hard to not spill the beans! It’s hard not to talk about the wedding to anyone! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

First off CONGRATULATIONS on your upcoming marriage !!

I too am an Elopement Bride (just over the Christmas Holidays) and I can say it was truly an amazing time… so romantic !!

Lol, mind you we are an Encore Couple (older couple) so we did tell everyone our Wedding Plans before we left

But it beat the crap out of a Big White Pouffy Family Wedding, which both of us had done before… tons less stress !!

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IMO, honesty is ALWAYS the best policy… (then you don’t get caught up in a lie… really awful when it is something to do with work).  That OR just keep your mouth shut entirely… but clearly that won’t work in this situation.

So ya, I’d just say… “Going to Europe”

As other Bees have said, Europe is a MAJOR DESTINATION, and it isn’t unusual for people to take several weeks when they visit there… one week and you wouldn’t see very much as 2 days could be spent just in transit…

If anyone presses for more info… don’t lie… just say it is a “family matter that needs to be taken care of”

That is the truth.  You’ll be a NEW Family when you get back home

I’m sure everyone will be thrilled for you on your return once the FULL truth comes out.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

When we eloped I only told my very closest friends at work and they told no one.  They knew we were eloping but they didn’t know where.  I never talked about things beforehand because once you tell people you can’t take it back.  One of the huge pluses in keep your personal life out of the limelight at work. 

Maybe you can just say that you’re going on a 2 week trip and leave it at that.  Don’t tell them any earlier than you must and only tell people that will have to cover for you while you’re gone.  There is no need to tell anyone else anything at all until you get back. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@kaciesunshine:  You could even say you’re just taking time off to have some quality time with your Fiance. I’ve known people to take a week or two off and use it for r&r with their spouse or family even if they don’t go anywhere major. That way you wouldn’t even have to mention Europe if you’re worried they might connect the dots or pry too much. That’s probably what I would say. I’m pretty tight lipped at work because people are mad nosy in my office so if I was in this situation I think my coworkers would get the hint and stop asking. It may work the same for you lol.

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