Post # 1
My fiance and I are eloping this spring in Europe, and we are taking a two-week trip. The only people that currently know about it are the parents (who are helping pay for it), and my boss, who I had to tell in order to get the time off approved. She was totally cool with it, and very excited for me.
Now the question is looming… how will I explain my absence to my coworkers?? My position works very closely with others, and I’m the only one who does what I do in this office. Therefore, many of my coworkers will be impacted by the trip and will likely have to work ahead for me a bit. So I have to give them warning about it, which I’ll need to do in the next month or so.
I also have several coworkers who I’m fairly close with (close proximity, which sparks deeper conversations sometimes). When anyone goes on a trip, we talk about it ahead of time and ask questions and get genuinely excited. I don’t want to lie to them, but I also don’t want people to know our plans until we return.
I have no idea what to tell them is the reason I’ll be out for two weeks (a rather extensive vacation around here). No matter where I say we’re going, they’ll get excited and want details, and I definitely don’t want to tell them the real destination, as before we planned this, I told them all that would be our honeymoon spot.
One idea I had… tell them we’re going camping: boring enough not to spark interest, but who goes camping for that long at a time?? The only other idea is… tell them we’re going to Disney World (I had vacation time for there last year), so the timeframe makes sense, but hopefully I could play it off as, “Yeah, my family goes every year, no big deal.” But I don’t know.
What should I do??????????????
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
You’re going to Europe for two weeks, that’s your answer right there. People won’t be surprised by a two week trip to Europe, one week is a short trip to Europe. That way you won’t have to worry if you slip up and mention some of the European cities/countries you will be visiting.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
You don’t have to say you’re getting married and a lot of people wouldn’t expect you to get married in Europe because it’s a pain in the butt in most countries to get a marriage license. The only ones that might suspect something are the ones that know that some European countries require you be in the country for two weeks before granting a marriage license but I highly doubt that more than one would know this and s/he probably won’t even think about it. I only know because my FH lived in the UK during college and his dad is British so he really wanted to get married in Europe.
Post # 5
I guess I am confused. I would just say you’re going on vacation to Europe for two weeks & leave it at that.
Post # 6
Ya tell them you are going to Europe. If they mention it being your future honeymoon spot just say you didn’t want to wait til then.
I think it would be actually weirder to lie about your destination.
Post # 7
Honestly, two weeks in Europe doesn’t seem like that long. It IS Europe. My friend spent 2.5 weeks backpacking in Europe and no one questioned her.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I agree with the other PPs…don’t say anything about getting married there. If they ask about the honeymoon, just say that you guys wanted to go sooner and now was the perfect opportunity. I don’t think they’ll find it odd, and if they do, blah…
Post # 9
why is it a secret?
just tell them you’re going on vacation?
Post # 10
I’d tell the truth about the trip, and, if you choose, just leave our the wedding details. There may be some hurt feelings about being lied to after you get back, but those will go away with the excitement, I’m sure!
Post # 11
We’re doing almost exactly the same thing. I would just say your going to Europe but I definetly understand that it can be very hard to not spill the beans! It’s hard not to talk about the wedding to anyone!
Post # 12
First off CONGRATULATIONS on your upcoming marriage !!
I too am an Elopement Bride (just over the Christmas Holidays) and I can say it was truly an amazing time… so romantic !!
Lol, mind you we are an Encore Couple (older couple) so we did tell everyone our Wedding Plans before we left
But it beat the crap out of a Big White Pouffy Family Wedding, which both of us had done before… tons less stress !!
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IMO, honesty is ALWAYS the best policy… (then you don’t get caught up in a lie… really awful when it is something to do with work). That OR just keep your mouth shut entirely… but clearly that won’t work in this situation.
So ya, I’d just say… “Going to Europe”
As other Bees have said, Europe is a MAJOR DESTINATION, and it isn’t unusual for people to take several weeks when they visit there… one week and you wouldn’t see very much as 2 days could be spent just in transit…
If anyone presses for more info… don’t lie… just say it is a “family matter that needs to be taken care of”
That is the truth. You’ll be a NEW Family when you get back home
I’m sure everyone will be thrilled for you on your return once the FULL truth comes out.
Post # 13
When we eloped I only told my very closest friends at work and they told no one. They knew we were eloping but they didn’t know where. I never talked about things beforehand because once you tell people you can’t take it back. One of the huge pluses in keep your personal life out of the limelight at work.
Maybe you can just say that you’re going on a 2 week trip and leave it at that. Don’t tell them any earlier than you must and only tell people that will have to cover for you while you’re gone. There is no need to tell anyone else anything at all until you get back.
Post # 14
I guess I didn’t want to tell them Europe, because around here, a trip to Europe is a pretty big deal. The whole time I’ve worked at this place, no one has ever gone on vacation to Europe. So I knew if I said that, they’d all be like “Oh my goodness!!! Awesome, what’s it for??? Didn’t you say you were saving up for your wedding and honeymoon, though?” etc.
But I guess it wouldn’t be the end of the world for them to know that part. I’ll just hope they don’t remember me saying our honeymoon would be there!
Post # 15
@kaciesunshine: You could even say you’re just taking time off to have some quality time with your Fiance. I’ve known people to take a week or two off and use it for r&r with their spouse or family even if they don’t go anywhere major. That way you wouldn’t even have to mention Europe if you’re worried they might connect the dots or pry too much. That’s probably what I would say. I’m pretty tight lipped at work because people are mad nosy in my office so if I was in this situation I think my coworkers would get the hint and stop asking. It may work the same for you lol.