Post # 1
We are eloping next August year but I have been thinking because we are eloping I have no bridesmaids but who do you talk to …get excited with?
We are people that always help out others (2am break downs calls, emergency dress maker , moving house you name it we will try to help) so we both agreed that for just one day, our wedding day, it should be just us and about only us.
We have told people our plans to elope and there all happy to support our choice to elope. We have a little boy together and have lived together for 6 years so I guess it not so much of deal to the family or friends that we are getting married. All but my mum and aunty go so far as to change the subject when I talk about it most of the time.
But they are things that I just want to talk though we someone (other than my Fiancé ) about such as wedding flowers should I have them or silly things. Plus we are planning a party after to celebrate so there will be things to sort for that I want to talk though. partically as I hate family parties and get nervous about them I going to be all up and down about it but who do I talk to?
My best friend is male and traveling the world (due home soon ish) My sister just keeps saying ‘when I get engaged…’ my mum is only excited member of the family but can I really put it all on her? I do have few female old school friends but they show no interest (helped out a lot with one there wedding so that hurts a bit ) plus they are not local so its Skype or phone only.
I just don’t know who to talk to…? Do most eloping brides have this or am I over thinking things? Am i planning things to early? is it just me?
Post # 3
@rainbowbee: my Fiance and I are have a Destination Wedding, jsut the two of us but its not really “eloping” bc the whole world knows lol. I talk to my family and close co workers about things. They dont seem to be annoyed by it. This will be #2 for both of us, so everyone agrees that there’s no reason to “break the bank”.
Post # 4
Kind of the same. Except we haven’t told anyone, and probably won’t until afterward. (Otherwise I think we’ll end up getting a lot of pressure to have a “proper” wedding.)
Post # 5
You talk to the Bees! That’s what I do.
Post # 6
@the boss of you: That’s what I was going to say!! We’re here for all your bridal chat needs!!
Post # 7
@rainbowbee… I feel the same way.
We are doing a DW/elopment. I have told my best friend (M-o-H) about it, but she lives in another state and is so busy with her life. I also feel bad talking to her about it because I know she feels lonely, she doesn’t have a Boyfriend or Best Friend and I don’t want to feel like I’m rubbing it in her face that I’m getting married and she’s doesn’t even have a Boyfriend or Best Friend. I told another friend who lives in my state, but she’s going through a wicked divorce and has three kids ranging from 5 – 16 who have tons of activities. Altough she has gone with me shoe shopping and managed to put together a nice bachelorette party with 3 wks notice, but we some how ended up talking about her divorce and situation during both occasions. Under normal circumstances I don’t like attention and I’m always there my friends, but for once I want to be center of attention. I only felt that when I went wedding dress shopping and I was alone then.
When I talk wedding stuff with my fiance he gets a little frusrated because he says he wants to enjoy this period and doesn’t want to deal with the usual wedding “stuff”. He’s says that’s why we are not doing a “traditional” wedding. So who do I talk to? I have nobody to share my excitements, ideas, questions, etc. We are telling our immediate families late in Sept (if they come, they come. If they don’t, they don’t) but by then everything should be done.
Post # 8
@the boss of you: +1. That is what I do.
I talk to my fiance’ and all of you. Since our family/friends think we post poned for another year, so they could all save more money, I don’t talk wedding plans with any of them anymore.
Post # 9
The only person I really told that we were eloping was my next door neighbor/good friend (she was going to dog sit for me while we were gone). So I was able to talk about it with her.
Post # 10
I talk to my fiance! Lol. Of course. We are the only ones that know. With the exception of my mom. She has some health issues and afraid that if we show up one day and spring the announcement on her that she couldn’t handle it. I don’t want to put my mother in the hospital over a surprise. So I told her but I don’t really talk with her about it too much and she respects that. I talk to my future husband about it and we are doing the planning together and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Post # 11
@Elvis: I agree. We arent telling friends and family because we don’t want our wedding to turn into something that we don’t want. We want it to be just us and a photographer. We will have each of our best friends there as witnesses due to our state law, but we haven’t even told them yet. Don’t want things to leak out.
Post # 12
That’s one of the hard parts about eloping. DH and I eloped, and I couldn’t even talk to my mom about it, because she was upset that we were going to Savannah Georgia to elope when we live in Michigan. She tried everything she could think of to try to change our plans. Fortunately, she didn’t succeed, because our wedding was perfect.
Like I said the drawback of eloping is you don’t have anyone to talk to about the plans or anyone to help with the details. It’s the down side of eloping, so you have to find a way to really focus on the wonderful romantic parts that go with eloping, and not let this part get you down.
On another note, even if you weren’t eloping, I think you would find that people who are not involved with the wedding would change the subject when you bring up wedding plans. It’s just not a topic that people are really interested in talking about if they aren’t involved.
Post # 13
Have you read the threads on here? Seriously, it sounds like most people’s BMs are not like what you’re talking about and we’re not suppose to expect anything beyond them showing up sober in their dress. LOL
I used the bee to talk about stuff. It was pretty stress free so there wasn’t much to freak out about.
Post # 14
“2am break downs calls, emergency dress maker, moving house you name it we will try to help”
I have some nice friends, but probably none that would do all those things or even offer those things! I didn’t have any crisises thankfully, so I really didn’t need the help of anyone.
I did however, talk about my wedding with anyone who asked questions. It was not a secret by any means, and all the friends understood the circumstances surrounding the reason for elopement.
Post # 15
Thank you for all the replies, I think there maybe a few more posts on here from me before next august. Its more a question of chatting feeling plans and a second opinion on things that I’m missing and by the looks of the BM’s broad your right they are not the answer any way. Bees it is. Thank you for the support I don’t feel so stuck on the lack of bridal chat now.
Post # 16
You’re right behind me Rainbowbee. We’re eloping too! And I’ve very excited, but telling no one beforehand. I love this site because I have the same issue! There’s no one to gush about my wedding with. I do anticipate it being a hot topic when we return though, so we’ll probably enjoy talking then!
And Yes! you should have flowers if you want them and anything else wedding related that you want too. Where are you going and is it going to be your honeymoon destination too, or are you taking a honeymoon later? Best wishes!