(Closed) Eloping- sad MIL

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
3588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I seem to have an unpopular opinion, but if eloping was going to upset my parents or siblings I wouldn’t do it. Parents will be gaining a son or daughter in law, and siblings a brother or sister in law. I feel like they kind of deserve to be there (assuming they’re not horrible or abusing or anything of course). My sister mentioned that if she gets married she might do something like elope, and I felt so disapointed at the thought that I might not be included and be there to be happy with them. If you’re able to stand firm on having no guests then you’d be able to stand firm on having parents and siblings only. 

Post # 17
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

What does your fiance want?  I’m a firm believer in doing what the two of you want to do; caving to what your Mother-In-Law wants is a slippery slope, in my opinion, because then she thinks she has a say in your marriage and the next thing you know, you’re formula feeding the baby you really wanted to breastfeed because she’s been crying about how she can’t bond with the baby unless she is able to feed him/her.  If your Fiance wants her there, then you will have to find a compromise – parents only at your elopement?  Skype them in?  But the two of you should work out what you two want to do and do that.

Post # 19
98 posts
Worker bee

Don’t give in– wanted to elope. Getting married in front of 95 people in June. 

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