Eloping to avoid the stress, but I've got anxiety!

posted 7 months ago in Family
Post # 2
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910 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

This is your wedding. Do not let anyone dictate who you do/do not invite. No one is owed an invitation, especially if they can’t treat the occasion respectfully.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

We are having a lunch with our parents and a couple friends after the JOP and thatʻs it. If they feel “deprived” then they can go harass my brother to get married. No, maam.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

tomandrachael :  

It’s not an elopment if “ 4-5 close friends ” attend. Have an actual  elopement , just you and him,  and a party , which your mum can organise to her hearts content,  when you get back. 

Post # 6
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1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Lol we actually eloped, like just the two of us I’m another country! It was super fun and would totally do again. We had a party at a pubfor close friends and family when we returned. No one was offended, but my family always knew that I had zero interest in weddings since I was a kid. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I eloped 4 weeks ago, it was the best day ever. No guests and no regrets. Do what you want, it’s your wedding. Some of my family members stopped speaking to me, but their anger will never outweigh the happiness of my wedding day. I would do it again in a heartbeat.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

tomandrachael :  You literally do not owe ANYONE ANYTHING if they don’t treat you right. Crappy parents/friends/family members manipulate others, knowing you’ll forgive them because “its my XXXX”. You are under no obligation whatsoever.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Elope!  However, I do NOT recommend inviting your friends over your family.  You will literally be saying to your family that the people you wanted at your side during one of the most important days of your life weren’t them but rather your friends. 

I feel your pain on the logistics of children and rowdiness…. and you’re totally within your rights to choose anyone you want to be with you on your wedding day.  However, you won’t get to choose how those nearest and dearest to you feel about it. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Glad you stuck to your guns about the kids not being there!

Darling Husband and I essentially invited the people we would have had in our bridal party to our tiny, semi-secret destination wedding. This ended up causing a small rift between myself and my family, and in retrospect I wish just the two of us had eloped!

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