(Closed) Eloping vs. (any size) Wedding

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
  • poll: Looking back now..
    I wish I had eloped & enjoyed being stress-free : (22 votes)
    25 %
    I wish I had the wedding ceremony & reception of my dreams : (8 votes)
    9 %
    I have no regrets. I Eloped & I loved it. : (25 votes)
    29 %
    I have no regrets. I had the big wedding & I loved it. : (24 votes)
    28 %
    I eloped & regret it : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I had the big wedding & regret it : (7 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    5109 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I voted eloped, though that’s not quite what we did. We did a Destination Wedding with 12 people… And it was everything I could have asked for. It was perfect for us. I don’t regret ONE BIT not having the big, fancy-pants wedding. It’s just not for me, all of the opinions and the decorating and all the people looking at me… I thought I might regret it after the wedding but I have since been to a wedding and I’m exhausted just looking at all the effort they had to put into it. haha. It’s beautiful and I don’t think bad of people who do; in fact I applaud them because between college, working, buying a house, dogs and TTC immediately after the wedding, I would never have been able to find the time to do it all. I find it amazing the things these women on the bee do!

    Our Destination Wedding was amazing. The vacation was beautiful, everyone got along, and memories were made that NONE OF US will ever forget. It was very intimate, romantic, emotional and bound us all very close. I loved it! And it all turned out that everyone could afford it once they found roommates and stuff.

    It does help that my best friend is having the big wedding ceremony and I’m Maid/Matron of Honor, so I keep joking with her that I’m living viacriously through her. hahah

    Post # 4
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    5109 posts
    Bee Keeper

    You may want to add “Eloped and regret it” and “Big wedding and regret it”

    Post # 5
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    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My sister had a courthouse wedding on 1 day notice with about 20 guests. The only things she regrets are not having a wedding dress or honeymoon. They do discuss having a big 10 year anniversary party though.

    Post # 6
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    5109 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I wanted to add that the only regret I had is that I didn’t get a first dance. I cried at that wedding I went to’s first dance… Made me wanna throw a big, casual reception/party/housewarming/possible baby announcement shindig where we can have a first dance. hahah

    Post # 8
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    5109 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @letterlove:  Not a problem! Good luck on your wedding planning journey. We originally were planning a big wedding and one day it just hit me, “This just isn’t for me.” I think your heart guides you where your heart wants to be even if your mind doesn’t know it yet. =)

    Post # 9
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    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    lol for me you might want to add “Had both and don’t regret it one bit!”  Because of immigration we had a civil ceremony in April 2010 and then an ‘official’ wedding in October 2010 with all of our friends and family.  Personally, I would have regretted leaving it at just the civil ceremony because to me, a wedding means having your friends and family there!  I loved our civil ceremony, but the big wedding sealed the deal for me.

    Post # 10
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    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    We secretly eloped in August 2011 due to so much pressure, expectations, finances, school, etc. We are having the wedding WE TRULY want Dec. 2012. It will be a Destination Wedding with a max of 50 guests at a lodge in the Smoky Mountains. Do not regret it one bit. We now feel free to do what is more “us” without any pressure.

    Post # 11
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    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    i think although it depends on you guys as a couple, it also depends on your family. It’s cool if you’ve got a laid back family. But i know my parents would never forgive me if i denied them a part in my wedding day. I think you need to sit and make a list of pros and cons to help you decide and get your Fiance to do the same. You could do what pp suggested and have a lovely dw wedding for a few people. The important thing is you’re marrying your man! No matter where or how! Good luck!

    Post # 13
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    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We eloped… and we had everything a regular wedding would have, fancy white rental car, ceremony in gorgeous location, high-end photog, dress/veil/suit/tie, bouquet, fancy dinner afterwards, champagne and wedding cake… 

    All that was missing was the stress of trying to please 200 people.

    Post # 14
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    2137 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    we will be eloping in october and im very happy with my choice our families are fairly small so 12 people tops, and our honeymoon will be in Vegas just Fiance and myself ahh much needed alone time, since we have a 10m old bbygirl hehe Cool

    Post # 15
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We had a full fledged formal wedding and I have zero regrets. Honestly, I would have NEVER eloped under any circumstances. Sharing that day with our families was much too important to us to just run off and do it alone. I’m an only child and the only female grandchild so my wedding day was kind of HUGE for my family. Besides, most elopments are very simple and require little to no planning and organization. That is totally not my cup o’ tea. As stressful as wedding planning was at times, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. 

    Post # 16
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Maybe it’s just me but I don’t consider a Destination Wedding with guests “eloping”. To me, “eloping” means that just the bride and groom run off and get married in private without anyone else in attendance (well, besides a witness). Getting married on a beach somewhere with a dozen or so of your nearest and dearest is a Destination Wedding. 

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