(Closed) Eloping? Will I regret it?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What should we do?
    Elope to Paris : (31 votes)
    40 %
    Elope to Lake Tahoe : (18 votes)
    23 %
    Traditional small brunch wedding, invite who we want : (24 votes)
    31 %
    Traditional evening wedding, invite everyone : (4 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Wow that sounds stressful. I have a somewhat similar situation- we aren’t interested in spending a ton of money on a big wedding that we wouldn’t really even enjoy- we aren’t into dancing either. On top of that, our families just clash… haha. 

    I don’t know what we will do yet, but I know we won’t have a traditional wedding. Do what makes you and Fiance happiest and what makes the most sense for you. Maybe talk to your mom and explain to her that you’ve thought a lot about it, and a traditional wedding just isn’t for you. She will understand eventually. I know it’s hard because you don’t want to disappoint people that you care about, but it’s you and FI’s lives and wedding, and you need to do what will make the two of you happiest.

    Maybe you could elope somewhere and then have a celebratory dinner for close friends and family when you return? 

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    my only concern with eloping to Paris is that legally you have to live there for 30 (or was it 40) days for the marriage to be legal – having just returned from Paris i also think there might be a equally beautiful place closer to home unless you have a life long dream to visit there

    we eloped and dont regret it at all as the day was relaxed fun and memorable and for us we wanted a day to be only “us” – i understand this isnt for everyone, we did have a after wedding party that was low key without the stress of a formal event

    Post # 5
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    927 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think I would regret eloping, but that’s just me. I’m close to my Mum and I know she would be really disappointed.

    Post # 6
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    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I say Lake Tahoe for the reason @eloping said and because it’s cheaper, and you said money was tight. Plus, Lake Tahoe is beautiful, I love it there!

    We aren’t eloping, but boy do I wish we were. I say go for it based on your post. 🙂

    Post # 8
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    444 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    We haven’t eloped, but regularly wish we had.

    Post # 10
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Seriously, go for it. Everyone has their own idea of what a wedding should look like, and you should have the one that you want.

    Post # 11
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    35 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Paris sounds so romantic! If I were eloping, Paris would be on the top of the list.

    Fiance and I have thought with all the money we’re going to spend on the wedding we should just sign the papers fly to Paris instead. 

    Post # 12
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    7394 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I would defintely elope under those cirumstances. If people are going to end up complaining anyway, you might as well get a fabulous romantic getaway out of it. I think the pictures in Paris would be amazing.

    Post # 13
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    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    If you eloped in Paris, it could also be your honeymoon! win-win.

    Post # 14
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I loved my wedding…but I would totally elope if I had your circumstances. What I really loved about ours was the feeling of love from our families. If they had been whining about the food…not so much. I say travel to Paris and bask in the glow of the love between the two of you!

    Post # 15
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    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Could you have just a small, pretty ceremony with just your parents and closest friends(as in 20 people max)?  Or invite your parents to Tahoe if you marry there so they have the opportunity to witness your ritual of dedication if they like? No matter what, it should be what you want, and if you’re not religious, I don’t think your ceremony needs to be.  If you kept it small, you wouldn’t feel pressured to invite extended family, and you could still have a few sweet touches to look back on years from now. 

    Post # 16
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    7692 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    It sounds like you question whether or not you would regret eloping-so, perhaps you’d like to have an intimate (close family & friends) wedding?  Could that happen with no hard feelings from others?  Could it be an intimate destination wedding in Lake Tahoe? with a Honeymoon in France?

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