Post # 17
I say do whatever makes you happy.. And your wallet happy. My fi and i are actually going to city hall tomorrow morning to get married via JOP. I wouldn’t so much call it eloping but I suppose it could be.=D but we are also having our wedding next year is why i say that. FYI, the wedding is only because our families really want one so I get to plan a semi small wedding. So since I cant give you a real answer, I voted brunch =D
Post # 18
I think I might regret it, but to each their own.
What’s the difference between eloping and having a small family only ceremony where you live? I think weddings are about more than the couple, it’s about a joining of families and of celebrating two people’s love.
Post # 19
I’m battling with this same idea for almost the exact same reasons. I too am worried about regretting it too. Sorry I’m no help 🙁
Post # 20
Thanks everyone for your thoughts! I think eloping is winning out in our minds. We really just want something special, and not a day full of stress. We will probably do some kind of pot luck with family when we get back 🙂
Post # 21
I had a messed up family situation as well, and I wish to God I had eloped! So, my advice is if you can see the train wreck coming, get off the tracks. I was so upset on my wedding night – it continued on my honeymoon, and I’m still dealing with the fallout 5 months later. Yikes.
Post # 22
I wish we had! Follow your gut and you will be happy you did.
Post # 23
Can you formally elope but invite a few people? My cousin “eloped” to Vegas and only invited immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents). They went to dinner afterwards as their “reception”.
Post # 24
do it for the two of you.
not for anyone else. i think eloping is so romantic.
Post # 25
I’m planning on eloping to Italy, good luck!
Post # 26
With your situation, I say elope! You can always have a formal reception or even just a party to celebrate later on. You can still buy a dress and have a photographer for just the two of you. Maybe even invite immediate families? Or take pics with them at a later date? If I incorporated these ideas, I wouldn’t regret eloping!
Post # 27
@Cradina: what did you decide to do?
Post # 27
Go for it! My husband and I eloped and it was so intimate and beautiful. We didn’t want to spend the money on a wedding and are not the kind of people who enjoy being the center of attention…. so it suited us. Eloping isn’t for everyone… but I’ll give you advice… do what you want for your special day and stay true to it! Friends and family will get over it… (trust me) and it’s about you and your new husband anyway. Spend the money on something that lasts longer than a day! You can always have a small celebration after the fact if you still want to include family and friends 🙂 Eloping doesn’t make it any less special 🙂
Post # 28
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I’m sincerely considering it; now that the engagement glow has worn off the and chaos of actually planning a wedding is looming, I wonder if starting off a marriage with intimacy (just us + an officient) isn’t the way to go! Your Paris plan sounds divine 🙂 Good luck!