(Closed) Eloping? Will I regret it?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What should we do?
    Elope to Paris : (31 votes)
    40 %
    Elope to Lake Tahoe : (18 votes)
    23 %
    Traditional small brunch wedding, invite who we want : (24 votes)
    31 %
    Traditional evening wedding, invite everyone : (4 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 17
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I say do whatever makes you happy.. And your wallet happy. My fi and i are actually going to city hall tomorrow morning to get married via JOP. I wouldn’t so much call it eloping but I suppose it could be.=D but we are also having our wedding next year is why i say that. FYI, the wedding is only because our families really want one so I get to plan a semi small wedding. So since I cant give you a real answer, I voted brunch =D

    Post # 18
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    3374 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think I might regret it, but to each their own.

    What’s the difference between eloping and having a small family only ceremony where you live? I think weddings are about more than the couple, it’s about a joining of families and of celebrating two people’s love.

    Post # 19
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    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m battling with this same idea for almost the exact same reasons.  I too am worried about regretting it too.  Sorry I’m no help ๐Ÿ™

    Post # 21
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I had a messed up family situation as well,  and I wish to God I had eloped!   So, my advice is if you can see the train wreck coming,  get off the tracks.    I was so upset on my wedding night – it continued on my honeymoon,  and I’m still dealing with the fallout  5 months later.  Yikes.  

    Post # 22
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I wish we had!  Follow your gut and you will be happy you did.

    Post # 23
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    654 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Can you formally elope but invite a few people?  My cousin “eloped” to Vegas and only invited immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents).  They went to dinner afterwards as their “reception”. 

    Post # 24
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    do it for the two of you.

    not for anyone else. i think eloping is so romantic.

    Post # 25
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    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m planning on eloping to Italy, good luck!

    Post # 26
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    288 posts
    Helper bee

    With your situation, I say elope! You can always have a formal reception or even just a party to celebrate later on. You can still buy a dress and have a photographer for just the two of you. Maybe even invite immediate families? Or take pics with them at a later date? If I incorporated these ideas, I wouldn’t regret eloping!

    Post # 27
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    4 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Cradina:  what did you decide to do?

    Post # 27
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    16 posts
    Newbee

    Go for it! My husband and I eloped and it was so intimate and beautiful. We didn’t want to spend the money on a wedding and are not the kind of people who enjoy being the center of attention…. so it suited us. Eloping isn’t for everyone… but I’ll give you advice… do what you want for your special day and stay true to it! Friends and family will get over it… (trust me) and it’s about you and your new husband anyway. Spend the money on something that lasts longer than a day! You can always have a small celebration after the fact if you still want to include family and friends ๐Ÿ™‚ Eloping doesn’t make it any less special ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

    I’m sincerely considering it; now that the engagement glow has worn off the and chaos of actually planning a wedding is looming, I wonder if starting off a marriage with intimacy (just us + an officient) isn’t the way to go! Your Paris plan sounds divine ๐Ÿ™‚ Good luck!

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