Eloping without toddler son?

posted 3 months ago in Elopement
Post # 16
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837 posts
Busy bee

Veebee1 :  My parents were married in a very small wedding when I was 3 years old, and I didn’t attend. I’m fine with it, and it literally makes no difference in my life. I understand it wasn’t a slight against me, rather an adult-only setting they wanted to enjoy without catering to a toddler. I say do what makes you comfortable, regardless what others say. Not EVERYTHING has to be about your child. He’s loved by many people, and will be safe and happy with his father.  

Post # 17
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507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Veebee1 :  I would suggest having the child-free wedding, but then planning a special outing or holiday trip after.  Explain to your toddler that the outing or holiday is to celebrate your wedding.  That way he feels involved, without being at the actual ceremony. 

Post # 18
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Veebee1 :  I get it I have a toddler and I always feel guity leaving him when I travel.  However, I have come to realize that he will be just fine and it is important to still live your life.  There is nothing wrong with just having you and your fiance.  It’s not like you are leaving him with a babysitter, he will be with his dad. 

When you have vow renewal then you can include him.  I also like the idea of taking before and after pictures with him.  Before pics could serve as your engagement pictures and he can hold the sign like pp mentioned and your after pics can serve as celebration of your new family situation. 

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