Post # 1
Do you think it’s ok to have email, text, or phone call RSVP instead of sending them by mail. Or has anyone done this????
We were thinking about it to save money but didnt know how well it would go.
Post # 3
We have an email set up for RSVPs, but I’m pretty sure we’re still going to send out the cards. But I don’t see anything wrong with email RSVPs.
Post # 4
@[email protected]: nothing wrong with it, i’ve actually seen that a lot more people are doing email, website, or call rsvp’s because guests are more likely to rsvp that way.
we asked people to rsvp on our website. sending out invites soon, will see if it works out well 🙂 some have already rsvp’d on the website when i sent out email save the dates 🙂
Post # 5
I think it’s fine. The point of the RSVP is for people to inform you if they will be attending and a total number of guests. Also guests may find it easier to email than drop the return in the mailbox, and you probably have less worry of it getting lost.
Post # 6
thanks! i just didnt wanna seem TOO cheap lol
Post # 7
We had people RSVP by email or by phone. We listed our parents contact # and our personal numbers. We had over 400 guests and it worked out fine. We figured that half our guests would not have sent the RSVP back through mail so it wouldn’t have worked out for us that way.
Post # 8
I think doing an e-mail RSVP is just fine and I don’t think etiquette says otherwise. However, I would suggest maybe doing a few paper RSVPs for older guests who are not so internet savy.
Post # 9
I think it’s okay etiquette wise, and okay if you aren’t having a formal wedding.
I personally don’t like it, but it’s because I’m very traditional and I’m having a formal wedding. It’s all your decision! There is nothing etiquette wrong with it, and I’m sure it makes things a whole lot more convenient for everyone involved.
Post # 10
I’d prefer email to a phone call and definitely to a text. Text is too casual. Email is good so you have a written record.
Post # 11
We are doing website, email, and having them send us a letter for RSVP. RSVP cards aren’t acutally part of traditional ettiquette, because it implies that guests don’t know how to answer an invitation, so you are definitely fine skipping them.
Post # 12
We did email & phone number, so guests (mostly older relatives) who weren’t as comfortable with email would have contact info.
We only had a few people on his side to chase RSVPs down for after the RSVP date. And word on the street is that happens with thses guys all the time no matter how easy you make it to RSVP.
So, it worked great for us! Miss Manners agrees and says you don’t need to provide a response card as adults should be able to figure out how to respons to an invitation without having a postage paid envelope provided.
Not that the postage paid envelope isn’t useful, but we did just as well with the email/phone number.
Post # 13
its the 21st century and everything is done electronically these days so why not your RSVP too? obviously not for everyone but its YOUR day and you should do what YOU want… i’m having email RSVP and i couldnt be more pleased
Post # 14
We did RSVPs by phone numbers and email. I think we ended up getting the same result compared to if we would have done paper; still had to hound guests (actually, STILL haven’t heard from one family that we’re semi close to after a month…) but it was cheaper!
Post # 15
We did it through our weddiing website. Easy as pie. I will be doing the samething for our summer reception. Even our “older generation” all have email or web access. I am thinking of getting just a few RSVP cards just in case.
I don’t get the mail that often since we have a PO Box. The only thing that I get in the mail is crap/spam. Everything else gets paid electronically.
Post # 16
This is from a Future Mother-In-Law. I don’t mind rsvps by email, but I would like a return acknowledgement. If I’ve typed an incorrect email address (these darn bifocals!) I don’t know if the response was received by my intended person. And, honestly, I have friends that don’t have email, so don’t assume everyone has email. the email option works for me though.