(Closed) Email vs. paper invites

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: How do you feel about email wedding invitations?
    Love the idea of email invitations : (14 votes)
    13 %
    Invitations should be paper only : (77 votes)
    70 %
    Just happy to be invited no matter how it happens! : (19 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @GreenGarnet:  i guess i dont like them mostly because paper invites are a keepsake.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think that it comes down to what you prefer, not what you think your guests might like better. Sure, there are some people who would keep your invitation, but I assume that most of the ones I sent out ended up in the trash because they just aren’t as important to other people as they are to me. But we wanted paper invitations and so that’s what we did. I had specific plans for left over invitations, too, so that was important to me. If it’s not a big deal to you, then I don’t see how friend X or cousin Y should play a part in your decision. 

    I get frustrated when people think they have to defend their choices about their own wedding. Or, rather, when they’re made to feel like they have to. I don’t like that someone is made to feel like decision a, b or c is tacky / overdone / trendy / outdated / other negative thing. Our weddings are reflections of who we are, and if saving money on the invitations is important to you, if having paper invitations isn’t you, then I say go with the e-invitations and don’t let any guests who bitch about it (if any have the nerve to do it to your face) get to you, because you’ll have made the right decision for you

    Post # 5
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    If you like it, go for it. You may get some rude comments from older or more traditional people bthat the end of the day, it’s the fact that you’re inviting these people that matters – not how you do it. So they can just shut up!

    Post # 6
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    779 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I wish you could pick multiple options, because I picked paper, but really, it depends on the style of your wedding! If you’re having a chill, outdoor ceremony and it’s not too ritsy, then email invites would be fine! 🙂 Easier on trees, right?

    I personally will be sending out paper invites, but I wouldn’t be offended or turned off if I got an email invite, or something along those lines! 🙂

    Post # 7
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would only like an email invite if it was for a super casual event. Which most weddings aren’t.

    Post # 8
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would warn against using e-mail invites. I went to a wedding that had an e-mail only invitation once and about half of the guests didn’t realize it was a “real” wedding. More than about 30 people RSVPed yes and didn’t come. Lots of people came super late, including the friend who was supposed to be running the music. I felt bad for the bride and groom because hardly anyone was there for the ceremony and they had clearly spent a lot of money on a tent, caterer, dress, ect. I kept hearing over and over again throughout the night “I didn’t realize this was an actual wedding.” People apparently just thought it was going to be a party to celebrate their marriage. I can’t think of any reason for the confusion other than the e-vite.

    This was about 5 years ago so maybe things have changed though. BTW–excellent date for a wedding! 😉

    Post # 9
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think paper is better, especially if your biggest reasoning for using the email ones is for online rsvp’ing because you can do that even with paper invites (direct them to a website that allows this, of which there are free ones)

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - Rock Hill Country Club, Manorville NY

    I would love receiving, and being able to use email invites, but it’s not realistic for me. Too many people who I’m pretty sure don’t use email, and it just wouldn’t meet a lot of expectations, and I’m afraid it would get sent to a spam folder or not delivered or seen. I also think that paper invites are wayyy too expensive. I personally don’t keep them, and they are thrown away as soon as the date is on my calendar. Check out AnnsBridalBargains.com for the seal and send invites if you’re looking to save money. I really hope though, that by the time my daughter gets married, email invites are the standard.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Personally, I’d have no problem with getting an email invite.  However, I know my dad would be horrified if he got an email invite to my wedding!  So it’s definitely not for me.

    It depends on your guests and how technology-friendly they are – will they all even have email or be able to figure out how to RSVP online?  I know even some of my younger friends are not that tech savvy and probably wouldn’t be comfortable with RSVP’ing online –  I’d probably get a call from them asking if it worked!

    But I suppose you can always do a combination of both with paper invites for those without email.

    Post # 12
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    1512 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I wouldn’t come if I was invited by e-mail only. Sorry, but that’s how I feel. TO ME, it doesn’t seem “right” unless I get a paper invite, and if you don’t take the time out to make one/have one made, I’m not going.

    That being said, things like that are around for a reason. You aren’t the first person to do that, so if you like it, go for it.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I’m all for being eco-friendly, but for some reason paper invites are one tradition I wouldn’t update. I think they just feel more serious and formal than an email invite would. Plus, despite the fact that it’s 2012, not everybody uses email or checks it often.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We did paper invites and (mostly) online RSVPs. I think it was a good way to go. Hindsight, I’m glad we didn’t to the online invite as many people just do not check that stuff.

    That said, no one but your parents and you will keep the invite as a keepsake.

    Post # 15
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    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We did electronic rsvp/invites for 80%, but those who really wanted a paper invite, and those too old to figure out the computer are getting paper invites.  We are also running our wedding in the paper (from a very small town) so that will serve as a big part of our invites for those we forgot.  We are going green, and having a rustic wedding.  It works!  Just remember to consider the older folks and their computer problems!!

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee

    I prefer email invites. I just received a lovely paper invite lately. It was nice looking and I RSVP’d and recycled the invite after the wedding. If there had been email invites, the wedding would have been just as nice and it would have saved the bride and groom $300.

    I’ll def be sending email invites/making phone calls for my wedding. The idea of wasting trees when there’s a perfectly “green” method doesn’t jive with me.

    As  for paper invites being a keepsake, I never keep them. I don’t know anyone who does except for the bride. There are so many woderful memories to be had when a marriage occurs; who cares to recall the invites? It’s not an important aspect of the wedding to me.

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