Post # 1
I know this sounds terrible, but I am having anxiety around this. I love them but I am really embarrassed by a lot of my family members. And, I know that my Fiancee’s family will judge and probably make fun of them (behind their backs). Thankfully, he doesn’t feel this way and loves me family and all. Does anyone feel this way surrounding their day : ( I know it doesn’t matter, but right now it does (secretly).
Post # 3
My family embarrases me all the time and I dont handle it very well (sometimes they do it jokingly or just cos) I find that I have to accept who they are and before I let it get to me ask myself did they do it just cause they didnt know any better or to get a rise?
Most the time they just dont know any better and I have to suck it up.
Youll be ok!
Post # 4
Why do you think your FI’s family will make fun of your family members? Is it because of the way they behave or because of their socioeconomic status?
Post # 5
I actually had this happen at my baby shower. My mom’s friend’s daughter made a comment about my aunt who has survived two bouts of cancer and a stroke! She was laughingh at her! So what if she has loss of strength on one side! Shame on those judgemental people!!!
Post # 6
Sorry for the misspellings! I am in ranting mode! I meant “laughing”.
Post # 7
not socioeconomic, but more like their lack of social skills. just wanted to feel like i wasnt the only one out there and had to get this off my chest. Thanks ccranetobe, you are right. must accept who they are!
Post # 8
My husband and I were a little worried about the differences between my family and his. My family is much more formal and conservative and focused on etiquette than his. As an example, we had to basically start a phone chain the day of my rehearsal dinner to let the men in his family know that no, it’s NOT OK for you to show up in a polo shirt… put on a shirt and tie at least! But the wedding was perfect.. everyone was just having fun. There is no time to judge in a situation like that. I will admit there were a few times during my wedding shower that I felt uncomfortable because his aunts were being really loud and annoying and I know my mom and her sisters were kind of looking at them like they were crazy.. but no one said anything and it was fine.
Post # 9
My mom is so embarassing, but I’ve grown to love that about her, and I think I’m starting to act like her too…yikes haha. Just take it in stride, family is family, be thankful to have them, some people don’t!
Post # 10
Sometimes I have to overlook my family as well, but they are family. If they do something embarrassing, just pass it off and quietly apologize for them. If you make a big deal out of it in front of people, that will only make things worse…
They probably don’t mean any harm. My family doesn’t, they’re just very… um… loud? Not sure how else to put it!!
Post # 11
THANK YOU ALL! I really feel much better now. I am grateful for this site. There are just so many things that others don’t understand what I am going through now.
Post # 12
Let’s just say that at R’s graduation dinner three years ago, my mom got quite tipsy off of one glass of wine – and she gets rather loud and talkative when she’s tipsy. It’s more funny than anything, although it can sometimes be an embarrassment – my parents kind of view money differently than my in-laws, and I think that my parents have this idea the the Future In-Laws have a huge amount of money. Which is not true, since most of their money is wrapped up in their nursing home. So the only embarrassing issue we really have is if my mom makes a comment about that…
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Ugh, yes. I’ve already told my dad he is not allowed to give a speech at my wedding but who knows what will happen after he has a few drinks…And don’t even get me started on some crazy cousins…I think it’s a fact of life that family is embarassing and all you can do is grin, bear it and then move on….Good luck!