(Closed) Embarassed by family

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My family embarrases me all the time and I dont handle it very well (sometimes they do it jokingly or just cos) I find that I have to accept who they are and before I let it get to me ask myself did they do it just cause they didnt know any better or to get a rise?

Most the time they just dont know any better and I have to suck it up.

Youll be ok!

Post # 4
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174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Why do you think your FI’s family will make fun of your family members?  Is it because of the way they behave or because of their socioeconomic status?

Post # 5
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I actually had this happen at my baby shower. My mom’s friend’s daughter made a comment about my aunt who has survived two bouts of cancer and a stroke! She was laughingh at her! So what if she has loss of strength on one side! Shame on those judgemental people!!!

Post # 6
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Sorry for the misspellings! I am in ranting mode! I meant “laughing”.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

My husband and I were a little worried about the differences between my family and his.  My family is much more formal and conservative and focused on etiquette than his.  As an example, we had to basically start a phone chain the day of my rehearsal dinner to let the men in his family know that no, it’s NOT OK for you to show up in a polo shirt… put on a shirt and tie at least!  But the wedding was perfect.. everyone was just having fun.  There is no time to judge in a situation like that.  I will admit there were a few times during my wedding shower that I felt uncomfortable because his aunts were being really loud and annoying and I know my mom and her sisters were kind of looking at them like they were crazy.. but no one said anything and it was fine.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My mom is so embarassing, but I’ve grown to love that about her, and I think I’m starting to act like her too…yikes haha.  Just take it in stride, family is family, be thankful to have them, some people don’t!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Sometimes I have to overlook my family as well, but they are family. If they do something embarrassing, just pass it off and quietly apologize for them. If you make a big deal out of it in front of people, that will only make things worse… 

 

They probably don’t mean any harm. My family doesn’t, they’re just very… um… loud? Not sure how else to put it!!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Let’s just say that at R’s graduation dinner three years ago, my mom got quite tipsy off of one glass of wine – and she gets rather loud and talkative when she’s tipsy. It’s more funny than anything, although it can sometimes be an embarrassment – my parents kind of view money differently than my in-laws, and I think that my parents have this idea the the Future In-Laws have a huge amount of money. Which is not true, since most of their money is wrapped up in their nursing home. So the only embarrassing issue we really have is if my mom makes a comment about that… 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Ugh, yes.  I’ve already told my dad he is not allowed to give a speech at my wedding but who knows what will happen after he has a few drinks…And don’t even get me started on some crazy cousins…I think it’s a fact of life that family is embarassing and all you can do is grin, bear it and then move on….Good luck!

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