(Closed) Embarassed my parents dont seem to care about my wedding

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it is okto feel the way you do. My family is the same way. I’ll pray for you,

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do you have an open dialogue with your parents?  Could you just sit down/call them and talk about what’s been bothering you and what might be bothering them?  My mother is very passive agressive and will clam up instead of dealing with an issue; maybe they are the same.  Perhaps if you bring up the subject in a tactful way, you can get to the heart of the matter.  Your Fiance could be right and maybe they just don’t express their enthusiasm in the same way as his parents, but it’s also just as likely that there is some issue they have (like you mentioned with the wedding style and guest list).  If this is going to continue to be a sore spot for you during the wedding planning, I’d address it early on.  No need to carry extra weight on your shoulders.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I could see you being hurt, but don’t understand the embarssement? From what you mention I don’t think they done anything that would cause you to feel that way. I agree with your Fi,everyone is different. Some parents are thrilled and happy their kids are getting married but they don’t care about all the details.I think your parents care because if they didn’t they wouldn’t care about where you have the wedding. I think they may have some hurt feelings, seeing that you live with your inlaws, you are having the wedding there, and in their relegion. I think they could understandably feel a little shut out and hurt.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@TwoCityBride:  I agree that they could be feeling shut out. If you are living with your in-laws, having the wedding in their town and having the ceremony of your FI’s religion, then your parents might feel like you prefer your in-laws over them. This could be why they are not showing excitement or offering to pay for anything. They may feel like they have no say in anything, so it’s best to stay out of it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@Bichon Frise:  I agree, they probably just feel excluded.  You need to talk to them and figure out what is the matter.  If your mom is just mad that you’re not having the wedding she wants, then she’ll have to get over it.  But, it could just be that her feelings are hurt that you spend so much time with your Future Mother-In-Law.

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