(Closed) Embarassing question

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

HAHA I understand. My best friend has never dated anyone so it’s hard to talk about anything relationship wise with her.

Fortunately my Fiance is very understanding and no, we don’t. Just personal preference. If your Fiance gets so antsy about it and doesn’t want to, then explain that there are certain days that yes, it’s out of the question. Too much "fun" going on at the moment. It all depends on how light you are during your cycle and when. In My Humble Opinion, if he can’t wait several days or even a week but still whines about it, then he needs to make up his mind HAHA It’s one or the other because you can’t tell the party to stop just because he wants to get busy.

Hope that helps!

Post # 4
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200 posts
Helper bee

Sometimes. It’s fine, just a bit messy. Just put a towel underneath you and it’s all good. 🙂

Post # 5
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I always wait. I just prefer to keep the house as clean and tidy as possible when Aunt Flo is visiting and she only visits for 3-4 days so I can wait. LOL

I think it’s a matter of personal preference and whatever makes you guys comfortable. Aunt Flo’s visit doesnt have to rule everything out though obviously so the waiting doesn’t always have to feel so long.

Post # 6
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We don’t abstain at all, but my period is very light. I’ve found that it also helps with my cramps and general moodiness!

Post # 7
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820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think it’s different for everyone and all personal preference. I’ve had exes who totally did not mind at all and we definitely did during that time without any qualms. I’ve also dated guys who totally DID mind. With my fi, we sometimes do but not often, and not when Aunt Flo is more.. err… prominently visiting than others. It’s usually because I don’t really want to though, not because he minds too much. When we do we put down a towel.

I think my advice is to not worry about what other couples do and don’t do because everyone is different and it’s completely personal preference. It just is a bummer that your fi whines about not doing it when you have it but also doesn’t want to. I would suggest trying it on one of your lighter days and maybe he’ll see it’s not so bad. Also, the best thing you can do is be honest and talk about it.. don’t be shy with him about it!! You’re getting MARRIED- he’s going to see you at your worst and eventually something as insignificant as Aunt Flo’s visit will be nothing! So start talking now! Don’t be embarassed, we all go through it!! Good luck!

Post # 8
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We usually don’t when we’ve got a visitor.  It’s not that we’re against it, I’m just a little worried about making a mess in our bed.  We also use towels to keep things neat and tidy, when we do it on my period.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

We, um, usually abstain. I used to be fine with it before we actually started having intercourse (back when we were just touching) but nowadays I get really shy about it. My fiance wants to try, but he made the mistake last time of admitting that he was a little grossed out about the blood (he…umm…doesn’t deal well with blood; let’s just say that our birthing experience will be INTERESTING, to say the least), so I’m still on the abstaining end of thing. It doesn’t bother me to wait (plus I don’t want to deal with the mess), and if he whines too much I glare at him.

Post # 10
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70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

sometimes we do sometimes we don’t.  just depends on how it’s going that month.  sometimes i like to wait it out though- whole new experience after a few days 🙂

Post # 11
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We don’t abstain on the lighter days, on the heavier days we make use of alternative methods of intimacy … 

Post # 12
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3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

abstain! just my preference, and Fiance respects that =)

Post # 13
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my hormones go into overdrive at that time! anyways, my hubby is a bit more shy about sex than i am so it gives me a good excuse to seduce him while in the shower and he doesnt complain… poor man, im nothing like any of his ex’s but im not a fan of twister in the bed during my periods

Post # 14
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960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I guess it’s different for everyone, but to me that is just gross (not trying to be mean, it just grosses me out). I’ve been with multiple guys and with every one I’ve abstained during that week. I don’t get my period anymore (I go from one pack of BC right to the next) so it’t not really an issue for us anymore. But I agree with what monalisa said. Do your own thing, only you and your guy know what you’re comfortable with. Plus for me, sometimes I could use a week-long Twister break.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

We tried it back early on when we didn’t get to see each other more than a week every few months, but it grossed hubby out (it was kind of nasty), but I’m on birth control pills now so my period is lighter. We won’t do anything right in the middle of it, but towards the end it’s usually ok.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

We do (did; now pregnant) abstain, mostly by his choice. On the heavy/first days, I am all for abstaining, I feel gross and I want ice cream more than nooky. After that, though, I am kind of cranky that he insists on waiting until I am TOTALLY done, because at that point I was usually, um, quite ready. 🙂 But that was during our newlywed "Oh my gosh sex is awesome!!!1" stage so I don’t know how it will change down the road.

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