Post # 1
Ok, so this is silly but some of you, my fellow bees, may get a kick out of this.
So, as many other Catholic couples we are required to take “Natural Family Planning” courses before the wedding. After several scheduling hiccups, tonight was finally our first class.
Now, there are a few crucial bits of info here:
1) My fiance and I work together in an office setting. We manage the professionalism thing pretty well for the most part and our boss is fine with the whole situation.
2) My fiance is very enthusiastic to the point of having no filter.
So, as we were preparing to go to class tonight my excited fiance walks down the hall declaring to people what we were going to be doing this evening and asking if anyone wanted to come along. When people asked what he was talking about, he didn’t hesitate to describe in more detail!
I was… wait still am… mortified! Gosh. I know NFP is supposed to bring couples together, but at the moment it is having the opposite effect.
Well, hope that gave you a chuckle. For anyone who has already gone through this, how do you get over the awkward feelings? I can’t immagine discussing the details of my “cervical mucus” with my fiance. Ewww!!!
Post # 3
@rusticgirl: First of all LOL.
And.. you do have to be comfortable discussing cervical mucus, and menstruation and cramps and EVERYTHING with your Fiance, you’re getting married with him and let’s be honest he’s gonna spend a lot of time down there, so might as well understand it. Did you tell him you felt uncomfortable with him doing that?
Post # 4
@Coffee cup: Agreed. It’s funny and embarrassing, but I would ask him to kindly keep that quiet in the office. I’d feel like it was announcing I was going to my pap exam…not exactly something everyone needs to know or be invited to, ahaha.
As for discussing it with him, like coffeecup said, it’ll may be awkward but it has to be done, ESPECIALLY for NFP so he understands how your body works and why the rules are important. It can be strange at first, but it’s a personal and intimate discussion (and maybe you can explain that to him if you ask him not to invite the office along to your sex-ed/birth control class! LOL).
After I read Taking Charge of Your Fertility, I gave Mr.ND a lowdown on the important stuff. He thought it was an odd convo at first, but he really does understand and respect women’s natural cycles and all the goes along with it now. Best of luck in your classes!
Post # 5
I have never been one to shy away from discussing anything from Darling Husband and always use much more graphic detail then necessary. Usually just to get a reaction out of him! So here is a story to illustrate my point! When we first started doing NFP, one evening I went to pee. When I got in there before I peed, I noticed a large amount of egg-whitey mucus.. the first I had ever seen considering I was on BC for 10 years. I first yelled at Darling Husband about it and started describing it in detail and excitedly asking him to come and look! He recoiled because he was getting ready to eat and said he did not want to talk about it.
Fast forward a few months later, now he ASKS me about my cervical mucus. Mostly because he wants to know when it’s safe to have sex as we are defintely not TTC. But it’s something we dicuss now. He just requests that I don’t talk about it when he is trying to eat! Haha!
Moral of the story.. the embarrassed feeling goes away the longer you are doing the process!
Post # 6
@jalaamarie: Haha! That is an awesome story! That is really good to hear that it feels more normal as time goes along.