Post # 1
I feel embarrassed by putting items that are over $200 on my wedding registry. I’d like to register for fine china (as well as casual), but I’m concerned that people will think I am stuck up if I have an almost $400 china set on my wedding registry.
For example, there’s one on the Macy’s website that I am interested in, it’s the Calvin Klein “Tula” set. But, the 5-pc place setting set (which, I know I should ask for 8+ place settings) is $145. Plus, the serving platter is another $145. And the serving bowl is $116.
I feel that if I register for these items, people would be offended. Am I right? I’m also concerned because I’m registering for a $200 espresso maker because I practically have a coffee IV hooked to my arm. Is this even appropriate?
I’m having serious concerns and definitely need your advice.
P.S- There’s a nice mix of mid 20-somethings up to 40-somethings attending the wedding. Of course, not including our parents and their friends.
Post # 3
I honestly wouldn’t worry about it. Lots of people put things on their registry that they want to buy themselves after the wedding with the discount you usually get. I know that I put some expensive crystal glassware on there and if others don’t buy it, I plan on using the discount after the wedding. Suprisingly some of it has already been purchased.
Post # 4
I think as long as you have a good selection of high end and low end items, you’re okay. I was told to register for 2x as many items as guests to ensure that they would have a good selection. We have a lot of appliances on ours and know that we won’t get them all, but plan on using the registry fulfillment discount to get the rest.
Post # 5
I agree that people now really understand that there are completion discounts, so why not put them on and save yourself money. Even with a registry, some people are bound to get you gift cards, so nice to have something to spend them on. Also, some people will go together for gifts.
I just had my work shower the other day, and received an item that was over $300 from everybody.
Post # 6
Don’t worry… as long as your registry isn’t COMPLETELY made up of items $200+. Macy’s has sales all the time and prices are always changing. We registered there for a casual china set that was originally $400… but one of our guests bought it for $200 on sale. Plus, people will buy what they want (and what they can afford) to buy. Give them a good selection with a wide range of prices and you’re good to go. 🙂
Post # 7
No worries! Everyone does! I have a $300 pots and pans set as well as A $200 knife set (that I’m planning on taking off… Dear hubby added the knives without knowing how much they cost… I’m sorry but $200 is just too much for a set of knives)!
I also registered for a bunch of less expensive things.. such as napkin rings. Do what you want and have fun!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry about it. We have an All-Clad pots and pans set on our registry that is $500. I would never expect one person to get that for us – it’s more on there for a group gift or for the completion discount. On that same registry, we have items for $2.99 so as long as there’s a wide variety and range of prices, I wouldn’t sweat it.
Post # 9
Macy’s has coupons ALL the time, so I think it’s fine! People don’t have to buy it for you if it is too expensive. I would just mix the expensive in with some other stuff you can use. You’re fine!
Post # 10
I think it’s okay. We put a rug on ours just to get the discount and someone actually bought it. Although it was only $100. Still very generous!
A friend of mine registered from some very pricey items and I wasn’t offended but i just thought, is she really ever going to use this? Where is she going to put everything. She registered for 12 place settings, 2, 52 piece flatware sets, and a bunch of $300 toasters, panini grills etc.
If you will use the china and espresso maker, go for it! Your guests won’t buy it if they can’t afford it. And make sure you also have reasonably priced items as some people don’t like to buy gift cards.
Post # 11
Nobody has to buy those expensive items if they don’t want to, so what’s the big deal? Like everyone else said, as long as you have a good price range and something everyone can afford, it’s no big deal. People know that fine china is a traditional wedding gift, and that it’s going to be expensive–it is fine china! I don’t think anyone will be too shocked at seeing it on your registry, and if they are, so what. They just won’t buy it.
Post # 12
I have items ranging from $2 through around $1000 on our registry. I figure that if someone can afford it, they will buy it, if not, they have other options (gift cards, cash/check, etc.). I think that as long as you have a good range of items- plenty for those with little to no money to spend and plenty for those with cash to blow- then you ought to be fine. A wedding registry is a wish list- you hope to get these things but you’re not forcing anyone to buy them!
Post # 13
I think that is totally reasonable especially since fine china is such a traditional registry item. Now, if we were talking about a $1,300 flat screen television, that may not go over so well, but everything you are mentioning are TRADITIONAL bridal registry items. Don’t feel bad.
Post # 14
I agree with the other bees. A wedding registry isn’t the same as a Christmas List, people spend considerably more money on a wedding gift than they would for any other occassion. An open hand is filled much sooner than a closed one, I say choose what you want!
Post # 15
Sometimes my friends and I go in together to buy a nice gift for a friend so that’s always a possibility. Also I know lots of brides who bought the pricier items after the wedding with their gift cards and discounts for registering.
Post # 16
Thanks ladies. I left the china. You’re definitely right, it’s a traditional gift. And, if people have a problem with it, then they should just keep scrolling down to find something they’re comfortable purchasing for us as a gift.
I’m also keeping my espresso maker because that is my DREAM. I have a 14-cup coffee maker right now from Delhongi, and I love it. But, I think it’s time for an upgrade.
@Amyy: That website is so innovative. We’re actually hoping for money as gifts from many guests, but know that it is innapropriate to ask. This is perfect because it lets tell our guests exactly how we would use their money and they can actually chose how much to contribute! Thanks so much for the tip.