Post # 1
Newly engaged and new to this site!
I am grappling right now with my ring…although its not a monster…it is quite a large stunning solitare, and I am sometimes finding myself embarrassed when people ask to see it and make comments about how big it is….what are everyones thoughts???
Post # 3
Mine isn’t big, rather small which I like, but I do plan to get a little more detailed/larger bridal set that will be noticed more.
I wouldn’t feel comfortable with people asking me to look at my ring all the time, but that’s only because I’m socially akward. But as long as its not BAD comments I’d be happy with anyone wanting to admire it hehe
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Post # 5
If you like how it looks and feels on your hand when you’re on your own, I’d say keep it. If you don’t like it just because of what others might think, maybe hold onto it for a while longer and see if it grows on you.
It’s more important how YOU feel about it, not how OTHERS feel about it.
Personally, my first ring was waaaay too huge and high for my finger, and I kept scratching myself and SO with it. The second one (with a scaled down stone) is much more…”me.”
Hope that helps 🙂
Post # 6
Sent from my Android
edit- not sure why I can never send from my phone… Anyway, I was going to say, I have the same issue. It really embarrasses me! That said, I like my ring and since I’m used to it, it doesn’t even seem all that big to me any more.
Post # 7
onestly, I sometimes feel guilty. We got engaged on a trip where we were in some poor parts of the world where my ring cost more than 3 years salary of an average family. I grew up in a very poor county and work on poverty issues. Most people at home and when I am doing field work have never seen a diamond that big in real life (and it isn’t big by most people’s standards).
It is strange when people catch a glance at my ring and then try to find out if it is real by asking what I do. It is complicated by few people at work wearing an engagement ring and the ones who do tended to get engaged when they were young and broke.
However, I realized it is a sign of my Fiance love. He worked hard, had the money, paid for it in cash. He choose it for me and I should be grateful for the material sign of his love. He got me something he thought I would love, and I do. And when it makes me feel uncomfortable, I just flip the diamond around so only the band is showing.
Post # 8
The only time I ever felt uncomfortable was when I mentioned to a friend that I may want two wedding bands to have one on each side of my e-ring. She made the statement “that ring does not need two bands”
Well, most e-rings I’ve seen with two bands do not need two bands, hers included but whatever. This may sound a tad bitchy, but I chalked it up to her being jealous that my center diamond is a bit bigger than hers.
I still think about that comment and how much it stung at the time though.
Post # 9
My ring is pretty big for my delicate fingers…(2.5 center). I don’t have it yet, currently waiting for him to propose but I do worry about this issue and I am glad you made a post about it. While It’s something I know i will cherish and adore forever, I know my family and co workers are going to be judgy…but I know for the most part if they are judgy i’ts because their jel.
I am from California so ring carat sizes are bigger there than where i currently live, which is Saint Louis, Missouri. They are just not as flashy here.
My SO is an attorney and works hard for his money. It’s a symbol of our love for eachother, the ups and downs of our 7 year courtship, and I will wear it with pride and not feel bad for it…they can be judgy some where else because I love it!
It’s all about you and what brings you happiness!
Post # 10
I wouldn’t say that I’m embarrassed by my ring (because I absolutely love it sooo much!) but sometimes I do feel weird when all people have to say about it is, “That’s HUGE!…” and nothing else.
I am also newly engaged with a sizable solitaire (though not humongous) I think the reason I get those reactions though is because I am still a student (finishing up my last semester in college) and my friends (engaged or not) maybe didn’t expect that my fiance and I would get such a large stone?
I don’t know. I am in love with my ring and that’s what matters. Try not to let others get you down. If you love your ring, then that’s what counts. I’m sure it is a beauty 🙂
Post # 11
Thanks guys! Its a very strange sensation for me…I usually love being the center of attention, just not when it comes to money. I have always felt guilt when I had something more then someone else…don’t even ask me why, cuz I have no idea!
Anyways, I’m sure it will fade because I am in LOVE with my ring, its just strange for right now and I wanted to know if I’m the only one who feels this!
I guess at the end of the day we worked hard for everything, and we should have every opportunity to be happy…hopefully everyone will find that happiness some day!
Post # 12
@getting_hitched: I am from california and i still live here in california..most of my friends have 1.5ct center stone with diff settings and a very few of my friends have 2ct..Myself have 2ct center stone with each band both side and a total of 3.5ct..I get alot of positive or negative complements..My ring isnt even that expensive…less than 20g…as long as you love your ring and who cares what people says..Just enjoy it..