Post # 1
I’m posting this because I’m curious as to if anyone else has been in this situation.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years now, and we moved in together about 6 months ago. We have a great relationship, but we’re pretty young (I’m 22 and he’s 25), and we’re definitely not thinking about marriage for another 5 or so years–I’ve seen a lot of failed marriages, relationships, ect. and I have a hard time thinking of myself as 22 and engaged…I’m pretty independent. However, lately I’ve been finding myself drawn to looking at wedding-related stuff just for fun, and the other day, he jumped on my computer to look up something real quick and he saw that I was searching for engagement rings, and started to tease me about it. I was so embarrassed! We don’t even really talk about getting engaged, even though we both know it’s an eventuality. Has this happened to anyone else? Did you just laugh it off and forget about it? I’m having a hard time convincing him that I’m really not waiting around for him to propose, and that girls just like to daydream! 🙂
Post # 3
My bf has caught me looking at engagement rings but he just let it slide – I’m in a bit of a different situation (I’m 28 so hoping to get engaged soon). You are right though, it is something us girls just do – I did it even when I was single (daydreaming like you say).
If I were you I wouldn’t worry – him laughing it off is a good sign. If he’s worried I’m sure he’d bring it up so don’t stress 🙂
Post # 4
ehh if he knows where you stand on the whole thing he probably just thinks it’s funny that women do that. I wouldn’t be too embarassed but if he seems to act funny about it just say like “you know I’m not ready, right? I just like looking since it seems like wedding stuff is everywhere!”
Post # 5
Hi – dont worry – this has happened to me too! I am a touch older though and we had talked about it, but its still a touch embarassing!
Him teasing you is a good sign that he isnt uncomfortable with the idea.
Post # 6
I’m sure he thought it was really cute that you were looking, and maybe it made him feel good that you are thinking of spending your life with him. But yeah, let’s be real, most girls in a serious relationship are looking at wedding pictures and engagement rings. I think you’d be crazy not to! Especially if you are a planner or a dreamer — it helps pass the time and think of your future together. I don’t think you should be embarressed, it happens!
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! It’s good to know I’m not crazy and the only one who does it.
I’m really into photography, and I often look at professional photography blogs to get tips or inspiration, and obviously there are always a lot of weddings on there…which of course always leads to a two-hour internet spiral, and suddenly you’re looking at bridesmaids dresses and centerpieces before you know what happened.
It was a little strange the way the boyfriend brought it up…he waited until a couple hours later, when I was laying on the couch half asleep. Maybe trying to get an honest answer out of me?
I would love to get married one day and plan a beautiful wedding, but I am in no rush to do it. Good luck to everyone out there!
Post # 8
I was sending my SO pics of engagement rings over a year ago. Though it was clear he wasnt quite ready. Honestly i made a wedding scrap book like 6 years ago when a wedding wasnt yet in the prospects.
So you shouldnt be too embarrased. We all think about our wedding. We all cant wait. And even though you want to wait a bit (which by the way, at 22, marriage terrified me so dont worry lol. 3 years later and i cant wait) it doesnt mean you cant dream a little.
So what if your embarrased. It will make it that much easier when the time comes if youve done your research.
Post # 9
I’m 22 like you, but a bit keener on marriage… 12 weeks to go!
Even when Fiance and I had only been together a few years, I used to look at wedding stuff online… Just browse dresses… And rings… And girly things. It’s like Wikipedia or YouTube or anything like that… You just keep clicking!
Fiance didn’t think anything of it, but he’s an incredibly chilled out kind of person. The fact that your SO is joking around about it is a really good sign, much better than him freaking out!