(Closed) Embarrassing Family (scared rant)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1310 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I have an “interesting” family too although mine are interesting in other ways. Everyone behaved themselves (during the actual event) although there was some snottiness afterward.

Obviously it won’t work to tell them to cut the crap. Since they get all offended by it. I think all you can do is PRAY HARD, ration the liquor, be careful with how you do your seating chart, and keep it short and sweet. Maybe 3-4 hours for everything including ceremony – the longer you go, the more time and opportunity they have to blow up. If they act like children you have to plan around them like children and their short attention/behavior spans!

Post # 5
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3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@TexasSpringBride:  What should you do?  Write a screenplay about your life, you would be highly sucessful.  That scene outside of the funeral home alone is a goldmine!

Remember in My Big Fat Greek Wedding when the two families met?  And how the crazy ones are able to pull the dry/stale ones out of their shell?  And then they all had one big party of awesomeness? Maybe it’ll be like that!  Just make sure your sister wears a chastity belt.  😉

Post # 6
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9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I feel bad for you… (( HUGS ))

Sometimes Family sucks as we don’t get to choose them… I’m over 50 and a lot of my friends have similiar woes with their immediate families too… so you are not the only one who has problems at get-togethers / holidays / reunions and such

If you permit me a chuckle…

I think your closest Brother, probably figured it all out ahead of his Wedding which is WHY he and his wife went off and married in secret

Honestly, you might want to follow his lead… and do the same.

Elopements for a Destination Wedding can be awesome… you still get to have most of the great stuff that any wedding has for a couple, but you get to skip all the drama, and enjoy the Destination as well.  It is what we are doing.

You can have AFTER wedding celebrations however you see fit… be it one Large Reception, Each Family seperately (you said they live in 2 different locations), and even something else with friends etc.  These are ways to cut out some of the Drama (and potential embarassment)… things will run smoother when you “are in charge” of how things go

EDIT TO ADD – Your reference to the Queen of England’s Family… lol.

HRH ERII hasn’t been all that lucky with weddings & family events either… as she said so eloquently in her speach to mark her 40th Anniversary of Assension to the Throne back in 1992… it was truly an “Annus Horribilis” (Horrible Year) although a lot of folks think that as the Queen is a “smart cookie” she used the phrase due to its closeness to the one “Anus Horribilis” (or literally pain in the A&&) lol, one way to refer to alll the troubles that the Monarchy was having at the time with their extended family (Husbands & Wives of the Royals)

Post # 7
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1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My family is bat shit crazy as well.  Now that my mother has passed away in March (who was also, God love her, mildly crazy), there is no one in my family who I am NOT embarrassed by.  My sister and her very ridiculously outpoken husband are avid pot smoking afficianados who live off of the welfare system with their 15 pets and have conspiracy theories about the government and religion and feel like everyone wants to hear their singing and instrument playing….and did I mention they are very outspoken?

This is one of the reasons I want to elope. 

Post # 8
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308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I made a post about me being embarassed by my sister a few weeks ago.  A lot of bees gave some great advice and the most popular response was: it’s your wedding and invite who you want to invite.  Just because they are family does not entitle them to go to your special day and most of them agreed that you don’t want or need the stress of them being there.  

I’m still thinking about it and it is a hard decision but I hope it all works out for you! It really is sad and frustrating when your family and you are so different.  🙁  I feel for you. Either way your day will be amazing! 

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