(Closed) Embarrassing moment with FMIL…help

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2006 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

omg!!!  *Shutter*

I’m so sorry that happened!  I have no advice other than to just act like it didnt happen.  You can pretty much assume she’ll never barge in again!

Post # 4
1736 posts
Bumble bee

Just keep remembering that she is feeling all those same feelings of embarrassment, humiliation and is probably angry at herself for not knocking! You have to let it go and make things easier on each other…if you are awkward around her, she’ll continue to be awkward around you. The best thing to do (IMO) is to be straight up with her the way your Fiance was, address it, and laugh it off. It happens to the best of us!

Post # 5
717 posts
Busy bee

omg that is awkward and i’m sorry that happened!  you’re all adults and she moved into your house, you’re engaged.  try to talk to her and reiterate the strict knocking policy.  it’ll pass, life goes on and this will be forgotten.  or you’ll just laugh at it for years to come 🙂

Post # 6
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Don’t waste time on it. It happened, she apologized, move on. Nothing to be embarassed about…

Post # 7
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

OMG, I’m blushing for you right now.  I can’t say it’s happened to me before, but she really should have knocked.  What a breach of privacy, even if you hadn’t been doing anything.  I would just go on as usual and act as if nothing had happened.  I would probably ask Fiance to talk about the knocking policy again.  Sorry this happened to you, but at least you guys were able to laugh over it.

Post # 8
1111 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yikes.  I would be mortified!  But don’t worry too much; I’m sure over time, the humiliation you’re feeling will fade.  Of course I understand why you feel embarrassed, but YOU didn’t do anything wrong.  Just remember that when you start to cringe thinking about the incident.  Wink  It was totally rude and inappropriate for her to walk in without knocking, especially at bedtime.  Even if you weren’t gettin’ busy, you could have been naked while you dried off after your shower…  SHE should be the one who’s embarrassed.  It’s nice that she apologized, though…

Post # 9
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had this happen to me once. It’s embarassing and I’m sure she’s already tried to forget it out of her mind. It was traumatic for her too I bet.

I would just try hard to forget about it and never think about it again. Locking the door might help too! 🙂 Just so you get in the habit with a child around!

Post # 10
1278 posts
Bumble bee

On the plus side, I’m sure she will ALWAYS knock from now on out so it will never happen again!

Post # 11
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Gosh Girl, I feel for you…

I would be soooo many feelings…

Freaked Out – Embarassed – Angry – Humiliated – Peeved

This lady sooo owes you both, and especially YOU an apology (as you are not a member of “her” immediate family)

Think I’d be at the Hardware Store today buying some serious locks for areas of the house that you expect privacy in (Bedroom – Bathroom etc) especially so if there is an unattended 3 year old running around your house as well…

WHY run the risk twice, I say.

Other than that, I honestly don’t know what to say… I’d be soo ticked off, but so embarassed by it all, that I don’t think I could ever see her face to face again

(lol, if it was I, I think my Fiance would be having a chat with the offender… that they need to move out asap)


Post # 12
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow, bet she wished she knocked now. The embarrassment is more on your Future Mother-In-Law, it is your house and bedroom after all, what are you supposed to do when she lives there, be celibate and have no privacy?

Might be time to invest in a door latch 🙂

Post # 13
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh sweetie, that sucks.  I think the first thing you need to do is get little eyehook latches for your door so that can’t happen again!  Though it probably never will.  Also it’s kind of like with spiders being just as afraid of you; she’s just as humiliated as you are.

I think that laughing about it, a lot, with people who are close to you but won’t spread it around will help you heal a little bit.  Humiliating things get less humiliating the more they turn into funny stories.  Sometimes I think that’s why we laugh at all as a species, it gets us over things like that.

It’ll be awkward, but with time you’ll all move past it. 

Post # 14
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ahhhh! I would definitely be purchasing a lock for the door!

Post # 15
42 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

Oh, Boy!!!!!

 a similar thing happened to me once. It was the first time I was visiting his parents. Fi was then boyfriend and we were staying together in the basement. So, of course I wanted to have sex. I started giving him a BJ, nobody was at home. Then his Mom arrived and called him to help with taking the  groceries from the car!

HAhahahaha. he put a t-shirt hanging from his shorts to cover the “boner”…

Post # 16
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Super embarrassing, but . . . the worst is that first time you see her after that.  It only gets easier from there!  

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