Post # 106
I’d just let the song slide (although maybe find a shorter version). There’s an old (think black & white old) movie about a women who’s husband leaves right after they got married to go back to the war, and then dies not long after they are married (movie takes place around Christmas). I remember seeing the movie as a kid and it haunted me. Wellllll, fast forward to me getting married. Darling Husband and I got married while he was on leave under the cloud that he might be getting stop lossed and sent back to Iraq (this was the height of the Iraqi war before they did away with stop loss). Oh, and we got married at Christmas. What song did my Mother-In-Law choose? THE SONG FROM THAT MOVIE. Uggg…I struggled with it so much and almost had to leave so I didn’t cry during the song. (I was a basketcase of nerves back then w/ the stress of him potentially deploying again). Their song sucked, sounds like the song your Future Mother-In-Law picked out sucks, but….overall, it doesn’t reflect on you so I’d let it slide!
Post # 107
I think it’s cute! It really is the circle of life happening for her on that day and maybe she has special memories of watching the movie with him as a child. 4 minutes is pretty long to watch the mother and son dance so maybe ask the DJ to edit it some to make it shorter, but beyond that I think it’s sweet and meaningful and very true. The way you were talking I thought it was going to be be “let’s get it on” or some other song that has sexualized or non platonic romance lyrics that can’t be interpreted in any other form.
Post # 108
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
I personally wouldn’t get involved in a mother son dance the way he didn’t get involved with my father daughter dance
Post # 109
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
Just thought I’d toss an update on here:
FH put his foot down and told his mom he wasn’t fond of the song. She was a bit upset and asked why, and he told her nicely that it was a little childish and he didn’t think the symbolism would work in the way she was hoping. He suggested the song “Simple Man” by Lynyrd Skynyrd instead, and she reluctantly agreed. Hopefully this doesn’t come back to kick us in the butt, lol.
Post # 111
hickoryhills : I just was talking to someone over the weekend who danced with her son to “Simple Man” at his wedding a couple of weeks ago. Sounds like a good choice! And both parties need to be comfortable with the song choice. I’m also doing a dance with my mom and she wanted to dance to something corny and I’m attempting to steer her in another direction, which seems to be working.
Post # 112
I thought FH didn’t really care what song it was? What changed?
Post # 113
mrsaime : I’m guessing OP probably spoke to him about it. The song got changed and it was agreed upon so I don’t understand whats it matters to you.
Post # 114
AnonBee2019 : What’s wrong with that song? Am I missing something?
Post # 115
hickoryhills : a lot of people old and young love that song. It’s actually very popular and I don’t think it’s cringy. It’s def something your fiancé and her need to pick tho
Post # 116
Hearing that she “reluctantly agreed” makes me a little sad. I wish they could have come to a more mutual decision! It’s supposed to be a special moment for both of them 🙁