(Closed) Emergency contraception has me down in the dumps

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I’ve never been in your situation, but when is your cutoff for needing to take it?  I would tell him you want to have a longer discussion before taking the EC.  Doesn’t it make you feel really sick?  If BC made you depressed, would this affect your mood as well?  I don’t think it is really that easy, and it is your body, so I think you deserve another chat before taking the pill.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@mrs_pugetsound: Your post has the potential to be filled with strong opinions from both sides, so let me try to phrase this all very tactfully.

I am not opposed to emergency contraception, in the general sense.  I would use it if I were not married, or even if I was married, and one or both of us did not want children.

However, being in the situation you are in (married, both wanting kids, even though not right now), I probably would take the “wait and see” approach.  When Darling Husband and I started dating, we only used condoms, and he was very quick to make sure I understood that we could still get pregnant (he’s 10 years older than I am, I was 23 at the time, and if we did, he would 100% want us to keep the baby).  

If your Darling Husband wasn’t concerned, did he not think there were decent chances that you were pregnant, or would he just accept it as it happens?  If you do take (or have already taken) E.C., then that’s obviously between you and your husband, but I might talk to him about it first, make sure he understands that you’d rather just wait and see how it goes.

Darling Husband and I started TTC because of a pregnancy scare, and when it ended up we weren’t pregnant, we were devestated, even though it was outside of our timeline.  Sometimes, things just end up a little bit different.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Did you tell your husband you wouldn’t mind if you got KU? I think it’s a conversation you should have before you take Plan B. Perhaps he feels the same way.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t take it, it is not good for your body. Especially if BC makes you depressed. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Butterbee:Agree. I’ve done it in the past, and man those side effects were……..

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@mrs_pugetsound: Oh, I never thought you were trying to incite anything!  I’m sorry if I made you feel that way.

But it is YOUR decision too, and if the only reason you would take it is to follow HIS timeline, then, at least, it absolutely warrants a conversation.  

If you take it, and satisfy his timeline but are left with guilt/side-effects/sadness, then that doesn’t do a very big service to you.  I don’t exactly know what the compromise is here, but you’ll have to be upfront and honest with him, without beating around the bush, and go from there.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Church & The Engine Room at Georgetown Studios

Regardless of your decision, you need to be able to voice how you are feeling and talk with him in more depth. I would hate for you to take EC and later regret it. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 I don’t want to feel resentful of this decision, but I wouldn’t want him to feel resentful if I didn’t take it and then did end up pregnant, if that makes sense. ?

That is exactly what I’d be worried about. You don’t want to spend the next few months until you actually start to TTC thinking “what if” you would be pregnant/have a baby by then. I’d definitely talk to your Darling Husband about it. At least that way you can have the peace of mind that you talked it out..instead of feeling guilty because you ended up just letting it go and going along with it. I personally wouldn’t use the EC because of the side effects that others have mentioned and also just because it’s not something that I believe is a good decision but when it comes to you and your Darling Husband, the two of you are the only ones that can make that decision. It’s really great that you are concerned for his feeling as well as they are totally valid too.

Good luck and let us know how it goes! *Hugs*

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@mrs_pugetsound: I would definitely talk about it, but I just wanted to mention (in case you do end up taking the EC) that not everyone gets these horrible side effects.

I have taken it once (in my case it was a positive experience), and I had absolutely no side effects. Just in case you decide to take it and are afraid for your health.

I hope things go in whatever direction you want them to. ((hugs)) Keep us updated!

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Good luck with whatever you decide!

just ask about how long you can wait to take it though – I know someone personally that took it too late & it didn’t work. Her baby was born at 24 weeks, spent months in the NICU & has many delays now at 4 years old. Not worth the risk, IMO, if you would keep the baby anyway.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I hope your conversation goes well and you come to an agreement you both will be happy with! ๐Ÿ™‚

I have to agree with Mrs. PolarBear. Not everyone gets side effects. You can take it up to 48 hours later, but the sooner, the better.

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