(Closed) Emotional affair trouble ? Marriage panic

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

he’s married. he won’t leave his wife for you, so just stop before anything starts. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

@Leosagg:  nooooooo ๐Ÿ™ stay away from him

go watch porn instead 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Leosagg:  it seems (from the bare bones i know of your situation) that not only are you better off staying away from this married guy, it also seems that you don’t feel as happy/excited/sure as you should about marrying your fiance. that’s what worries me, because being attracted to someone else at this stage in such a way, is a side effect, not a cause.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Not worth the headache and heartache.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t think you should get married. you are engaged and still attracted to other guys, you are not marrying for love honey, and you are doomed hurting a good man for a married man. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

@Leosagg:  you know, part of me thinks he’s crossing the line anyways. He doesn’t sound faithful to me ๐Ÿ™ 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

It’s important that you can share these same things with your future husband. You deserve to be each others best friends. My advice? Break contact with the married guy and focus on the love you have for the man you’re going to marry. Goodluck- all the best!

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Leosagg:  My honest view is that you’re playing with fire. What do you think will happen eventually? You’ll be posting one of those “I don’t know what to do… I love my husband but I slept with my friend. Do I tell my husband? I think I’m in love with my friend but he’s married!” — don’t go there!!

This isn’t fair to your fiance… or even yourself. Let’s not even talk about the wife of your “friend”! 

If you get bored easily, don’t get married. Sounds like it’s not something you should pursue. You’re also not giving your marriage a chance because you’re putting all these flirty feelings towards another guy.

I think you need to stop seeing this guy. You have definitely crossed a line already, but if you truly love your fiance and want the marriage to work, you still have a chance to salvage it. If you get in any deeper with this other guy, though, I think you’re hooped. He’s also MARRIED so even if you do sleep with him, there’s absolutely no guaratee that he’ll leave his wife. Do you really want all this drama?

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You know what you’re doing is wrong. And if he’s willing to cheat (even if only emotional so far) with you, then he’d be willing to cheat on you. Your don’t sound very excited about your Fiance, just more resigned to the fact that he’s safe and stable. I wouldn’t be getting married if I were you. If you’re doing this now, think about how hard it will be to behave after 10+ years of marriage, for example.

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