(Closed) Emotional but NWR

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you do?
    Leave the past in the past. : (5 votes)
    63 %
    Tell her, so she knows who her friends are. : (3 votes)
    38 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    126 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Wow… tough.  I wouldn’t want to cause your friend any more pain… I think she’s been through enough with that guy, but I’d have a hard time seeing her still be friendly with the girl that betrayed her.  I suppose I would try to steer her clear of this other girl without mentioning the past.  Maybe just mention things she has said behind her back or point out disrespectful things she has done.

    If you tell her, don’t be surprised if she gets really angry with you and the rest of her “friends” as well for not having told her anything during the time it was happening.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2158 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I wouldn’t bring it up now, not if it’s not an immediately pressing thing happening.  It’s been done. It’s over.  It’s hard to see them together perhaps, but what good would come of telling her now?

    Post # 6
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    410 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would want to know. It’s creating drama, for sure, but this is bigger than just a douchey ex.

    Considering that this is her best friend you’re talking about, do you think she will trust you since you 2 were on the outs for a while and only just resolved things?

    Post # 7
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    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    This is really difficult, but I’m leaning more towards telling her, especially since you indicated that this “friend” of hers has really displayed some horrible behavior- what exactly do you mean by being capable of much worse? Would your friend be in any kind of danger as a result of their friendship?

    I generally would agree to leave the past in the past, but sometimes it’s relevant to what’s happening right now. I would NOT want to be all buddy-buddy with someone who had betrayed me in such a horrible way- think of the things she might confide to this girl, who has clearly shown her disregard for the friendship. She’s going to be pissed, but I think she should probably know. Just try to let her know that you’re there for her if she’ll have you. 

    Post # 9
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    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @reine_de_rien: Yikes- that sounds pretty bad.  He sounds like he could be a dangerous person to be around. Is he unsure of his orientation? Just curious, as struggling with identity and hiding his true self could be the cause of his slimy behavior. But that’s a whole other topic. Mostly just wondering.

    I definitely think you should tell her. Let her know you’ve been struggling with what/how to say it, but that you think she deserves to know. 

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