Post # 1
Ok I have to vent! I’m sure this is the samesong second verse to most baby posts but …
I want a baby! My hubby and I have been married for a little over a year I was ready last april but we had already discussed waiting one year. He had a daughter prior to us meeting and marrying so our major set back to pregnancy has been that there’s no room in our tiny little house for another child. Literally if you saw my house you’d cry with me! So anyway I feel like I’m on this roller coaster I can’t get off of. It starts with I want a baby soooo bad it almost hurts, but we can’t have a baby in this house because bless God this is my first kid and I want to have a space for it, his daughter got her own room our kid should too, *tears* suddenly think that he’s already had a baby, the one person that I want to share this experience with and I won’t be able to because he’s been there and done it already, enter dashed dreams and hopes of having a non broken family that I thought I got over but am suddebly grieving again, maybe I dont want a baby heart broken hurts so bad but I want a baby so bad it hurts ….. cue wheel.
Girls what do I do? We’ve talked about it we’re planning on moving at the beginning of the year, I want a baby, he wants a baby. The other wrench here is he’s currently unemployed so we don’t have insurance to cover Dr. and such so we’ll have to get assistance. :/ hrmpph I just am so emotionally distraught. I need encouragement! And I really don’t have anyone to talk to in person so please help!
Post # 3
@merrygrl: hugs, it will happen. Why not focus on finding a new home, him a job, and insurance. That will help take some of the fever away. 🙂 I understand baby fever is no joke.
Post # 4
DEEP BREATH!!!! In……………Out……………..In…………….Out…………….
Okay, you need to get these baby cravings under control. Because I think you should really get into a new home and have your guy stable in a job before trying to get pregnant. Unless you can comfortably live on your salary alone.
Your family isn’t broken now. It won’t be if you have a baby. His daughter should be a wonderful addition to your family, not something that makes it “broken”. And I’d consider yourself lucky that your guy has some parenting experience! I keep making my husband watch our friend’s kids to give himm some training!
Post # 5
My manager wanted a baby and waited for five years, she then decided simply stop contraception and let him know she would stop, fast forward ten months, they had a baby girl and now he’s crazy about her.
Post # 6
@trixiesrockets thank you!
@JenGirl thank you also. Just to clarify when I say broken its only because that’s the typical term given to it. What I mean is really that I was raised in an extremely close knit family and it hurts my heart to think that our kids won’t get to be that close knit with their sister because we can’t hog her to ourselves. It just affects things like holidays and such that makes me sad 🙁 but I do see her as a wonderful addition and I love her to pieces! She even calls me mom when she’s at our house. 🙂
The hardest part of the whole thing was they fired my hubby only a few months before that one year deadline we had set to wait, so I was all set to have baby then BAM he’s fired. We recently have started building a company but it isn’t to a place where it can sustain paying for a baby yet. I just feel very stressed and heartbroken over the whole thing you know the old “this wasn’t how it was supposed to hapen”
Post # 7
also I know and see often a ton of people who have babies and they’re so cute. I thought maybe being around other babies would help the baby fever but no it made it worse. So now I find myself avoiding certain places and friends to keep from seeing their kids. Which, by the way, is very hard thanks to Facebook.