Post # 1
I need advice:
Recently I tried to be open with 2 of my MOH about how I was feeling, hoping to solve the problem right then and there and move on. I sent it through e-mail, which maybe wasnt the best idea, but they can both be hard to get ahold of so I thought that would be best.
I had also heard from another friend that these two MOH of mine were talking behind my back, so I wanted to ask them about that as well, because it hurt and I felt like I was doing my best at trying to make them happy.
After several days, I e-mailed again, but heard nothing. After a few more days and texts I was able to get ahold of one, which we were able to work through the differences. The other bridesmaid however was a bit more of a difficult situation. In our conversation I had mentioned that if we werent able to sort things out that maybe it would be best if she stepped down from her position. The conversation had gotten no where, she had told me that she didnt like weddings, and that she has tried her best with the wedding plans. I really didnt know what to say, as I obviously care about her to ask her to be one of my MOHs.
I tried to tell her how I felt, and it got me no where, if not worse off. I didnt think that something like this would be blown out of proportion! I have been a mess since we have talked, and have been sobbing since. I really am not sure what to do, she seemed so cold on the phone that it made me think she didnt want to be apart of this day…. I also have another friend who is consoling me and telling me that if need be, she will stand in for her. I dont want to ruin a friendship over this, but I also want to be happy, any advice??
Post # 3
Can you give us a little more background on what exactly your issues were with your MOH’s and what your email said?
Post # 4
initial thoughts- seeing as you have so little time to go until your wedding, you are probably really emotional and frazzled to begin with (even without this Maid/Matron of Honor drama). before you do anything, take another day or two to relax- try not to think about this AT ALL, and see where your head is at in the next few days. i know when i am generally flustered and on edge to begin with, everything seems a million times worse than it is. you don’t want to make a decision you will regret later. maybe after a few days you will decide that you do in fact want her to step down, but if you give yourself a little time to breathe and put it out of your mind then at least you will know you have made the best, rational decision. hugs!!! get yourself some tea, stat!
Post # 5
Okay so without background information here are my thoughts: If you’re mad at her because she isn’t fawning over you as the bride and throwing you bridal showers and parties, and isn’t interested in you’re wedding as much as you think she should be, then you need to get over it because she isn’t required to do that. All she has to do is buy a dress and be at the wedding on time. Now, if you’re upset and angry because she slept with you’re fiance, is dictating aspects of the wedding that are none of her business, you’ve discovered something about her that you morally disagree with, or something of that nature, then I see a problem. And that is a FRIEND problem not a Bridesmaid or Best Man problem. If this is the case, then set up a time to talk FACE-TO-FACE regardless of how busy she is (if you’re really friends she’ll find time) and work it out. Good luck!