(Closed) Emotional Day: I lost it on Friday.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@kariebee43:  No wise words for you unfortunately. I just wanted you to know that I’m so sorry you have to live with this and that you and your husband are in my thoughts.

Post # 18
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320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@kariebee43:  Thank you for sharing!  I know this is painful for you and I hope that posting here helps.  And what if someone with your diagnosis will come across this post and feels relieved that they finally have someone who actually understands?  It must be awful to feel so isolated by your diagnosis, and I’m sure that you are not alone.

 

Please don’t be too hard on yourself.  Give yourself the time and space you need to grieve.

 

Post # 20
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924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I found this thanks to your mention of it in the other thread, and I’m so, so, sorry for what you are going through. My dh is infertile, and some of the hypothetical ‘what would you do’ threads that I’ve seen here are really hurtful. People just have no clue unless they are there. And it’s a really sucky club to join. I wish everyone would read your post are realize how hurtful some of the things people say are.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Thank you so much for being brave enough to share this. I can’t pretend to know how you feel as I’m not in your situation (or at least I don’t think I am, I’ve never TTC), but I always think that raw honesty like yours has the ability to reach out and touch so many people who otherwise might not understand.

I know it sounds really cheesy, but I do believe that at some point it will get better for you. I’m sure the pain will always be there, but I’m hoping that maybe one day it won’t be so devastating for you as it is now.

My husband’s parents are infertile. In this case it’s his father that can’t have kids, so their situation is a little different. But they eventually adopted my DH and his older sister and I’ve seen very few families that I’d say are happier.

Since you’ve already said you are open to adoption, I hope that one day your future children might be able to dull the pain for you the way my husband and his sister did for my in-laws.

In the meantime, hang in there. I would consider going to a little bit of therapy just to help you through the grieving process. Sometimes talking about it really can help.

Post # 22
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1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I hope that someday – whenever it is (and however it happens) – when there are children in your life, you are only able to smile genuine smiles every day.

Post # 23
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am crying for you. My BFF cannot have children as well. It is not ok, it is not fair and it is heartbreaking. I am so sorry for you. Big Hugs. Boo to all insensitive people in your life. 🙁

Post # 24
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530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

@kariebee43:  Just stumbled across your thread and literally brought me to tears. Your post was moving. Know that everyone on the Bee is here for you. I am sorry that your records were not transferred to your new specialist. I am a nurse and work at a medical practice and am sorry you had to go through that. My older cousin cannot have children either and I understand where you are coming from. You must be so blessed to have a partner in your life that fully supports you and understands you. 

Hugs and power to you for being strong and brave to share this on the Bee. 

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Hello dear. I am so sorry you got a chance to have a good cry about your health issue and you weren’t there with a good friend/sister/family member. But I’m glad you let it out!

and thank you, thank you for sharing your story and thank you for your Public Service Announcement at the end of your post reminding everyone to be a little more careful before we speak. i’ve heard comments made in the presence of a friend who is reproductively challenged and my hearts breaks for her every time this happens. People will learn eventually, I know they dont mean any harm but still can be avoided. I think it’s great that you reminded us to watch our words. 

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