- 5 years ago
My husband and I have been married 1 year. We have the most beautiful marriage, aside from my relationship with his parents.
I have not felt close to them ever since we got engaged because they constantly interfered with our wedding plans. Since then, I have been unable to feel warm towards them because all I can see and hear when I’m with them is their tendency to ignore others’ wishes in order to have things their way. Their lack of respect for other peoples’ wishes makes me feel like they will never genuinely care about my happiness. I take it personally even though they do it to everyone. I know for sure they have nothing against me personally, I guess they’re just kind of oblivious and insensitive.
I know they are good people and they raised a wonderful son, but it is so hard for me to move on and see them in a more positive light. I want so much to get along with them because I know it hurts my husband when I keep my distance from them. I wish I could have a beautiful happy pleasant relationship with them but I am also scared of making myself vulnerable to getting my feelings hurt the next time they steamroll over me. I also fear that if I warm up to them, they will see it as an opportunity to interfere and assert control when grandchildren come–which I am totally dreading btw.
My instinct is to keep my distance but remain as pleasant and polite as possible. Does anyone in a similar situation have any advice or input on how well this type of approach has worked out for them?