(Closed) Emotional dress rant. Long, and has large pics SORRY!

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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9482 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I can see why you’re disappointed.  I honestly don’t think it flatters your figure at all.  Is there pictures of you in the other dress?

Post # 4
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7291 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Since you have some extra time, I suggest taking advantage of trying on and really searching for the perfect dress- or finding a brilliant seamstress 🙂 If you have a really tight budget, there are a lot of great options. I bought my dress from the goodwill which has an store on e-bay and sells all dresses like under 50 bucks- brand names and all. Also check thrifts, and local bridal consignments.

You are right: the dress does nothing for your figure, or really probably anyones figure!

Post # 6
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134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is there nothing that a seamstress can do with this one to make it fit you?  It seems such a waste. I understand how you are feeling. The dress I have now is my second purchase. The first one I bought was ok and I had it all fitted but as time went on I really didn’t feel comfortable about it.Good job I got the second one as I tried the first one on this week and it is waaaaaay to smalll now!!!  

Post # 7
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8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I think a seamstress could alter it to make it look more flattering. I’d start by making the top a sweetheart neckline, then see if you can add some more ruffling/layers to the bottom to give it more WOW.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@RAWR.its.BREN:  I commented on your other dress thread, but I’m loving that dress TONS more than this one.  I think you will look absolutely stunning once you had it altered.

Post # 10
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53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

This must be a really frustrating situation for you. How small is the first dress? Why do you say that losing weight would be impossible for you? You still have a fair bit of time before your wedding. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Your first dress pictured above is gorgeous, and I can see why you love it (it’s much more flattering than your 2nd dress). What size is it?  Do you have a pic of how much it gaps in the back right now?  I’m sure there is a seamstress somewhere who can work some magic to make it look good, so don’t just take one person’s assessment as the only truth.  I know you really really really love the fit n flare style, but if you’re so unhappy with your apple shape (I’m one, too), maybe you need to look at other silhouettes that will make you feel confident & beautiful instead of worrying about your tummy and lack of hip definition.  That being said, you have a lot of time to lose a little weight so look at it in a good way that you pushed back your wedding.  But you’re going to have to make a decision of either selling the first dress, recouping some of your losses, and finding a new one that fits better or making that first one fit by losing some weight and paying for alterations.  Notice I didn’t include that 2nd dress in any choice, but I’m not really a fan of that one, sorry.  I really think the 1st dress is stunning, and I hope you can get it to where it fits properly and makes you feel beautiful!  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

If you’re getting married in April 2013 then I don’t see why you can’t just work your butt off and try to lose some weight! I’m not sure how small it is on you but you should be able to lose quite a bit in that time frame! 🙂 Best of luck girl

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@RAWR.its.BREN:  Does that back of the old dress have a corset?  Did you only see one seamstress?  I get seeing someone that you trust, but maybe a second opinion?  Both dresses would benefit from a sweetheart neckline.  I also think that a great crinoline would balance you out in the “old” dress.  

If you have to go with the 2nd dress, I honestly think that a good seamstress could make it work for you.  Could you put in a corset so that your waist is defined.  A corset and some serious shapeware could make the dress work a bit better.  I’m also wondering about getting rid of the bottom of the dress and doing something else with the bottom of the dress.  It’s kind of a column right now…but I think that it might be able to be made right with someone super skilled.  You need a dress maker who can really rip apart either dress and make it work for you… you want to feel beautiful and you’ve already sunk some cash into this.  

As someone who “settled” for their dress, don’t do it!  The only pictures of me I’m really a fan of are the ones where I’m wearing my grandmother’s fur coat and it’s just of my upper half.  lol  I had a dress completely altered (train removed, A line made significantly similiar, poof removed, sleaves added, etc), but it was to try to match a $2000 dress I LOVED and it never measured up.  You love the first dress.  There’s got to be a way to make it work.

 

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