(Closed) Emotional is right…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3142 posts
Sugar bee



Here’s a cyber hug from a random stranger ((hugs))

Post # 4
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Sometimes I get overhwlemed as well.  It can be a stressful process, and I’m sure it’s been a stressful weekend as well. 

Don’t get too caught up in all the weddingness – just remember, ultimately it’s just one day, and the important thing is marrying the person you love. Take things one day at a time.  Concentrate on one component at a time.  What kind of a venue are you looking for?  If you need help with research, you know that we bees can help πŸ™‚  And honestly, if what would make you happy is just to elope, then do it.  You can plan something later on as a “reception.”  Go to the courthouse, go to an island, do it that way if that’s what you and your fiance want to do. 

As a side note, your dress is so beautiful (yes, I stalked it back in the boards).

Post # 5
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Awww ((hugs)) hunny! I completely understand. It was going to be way too expensive for us to get married here and I couldn’t find a venue or anything so we decided as a couple that me, my fiance and our immediately family and best friends are getting on a cruise and getting married πŸ™‚ I know that doesn’t help you but you just have to believe that everything happens for a reason and you will have the perfect day, just don’t settle. If you had a courthouse wedding now you could have a beautiful vow renewal in front of all of your friends when you have the money to have a celebration…there are lots of options. Just remember at the end of the day that you have found the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and no matter where you get married he will always love you πŸ™‚

Post # 6
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Girl its absolutely NORMAL to feel this way. I can garuntee that 95% of Brides feel like this during the Wedding planning.

I too was cursed w having 0 money for our Wedding.

Both our parents arent rich enough to have paid for us, so my Fiance and I are basically paying as we go.

We decided on an UBER small and intimate Wedding, we basically just invited our parents and siblings. 

We made sure to tell people from the start that itll just be immediate family so that no one gets jealous they werent invited.


Our guest list is about 20 people.



Dont get discouraged, remember that its YOUR Wedding, and do what you can do.

Besides, there are people that have GRAND weddings and shitty marriages.

So a simple small Wedding is all you need.


Good luck!


Post # 7
46406 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Remember, it’s not expensive to get married! It can be expensive to have a wedding.

Decide what you want- a marriage or a wedding- then make it happen.

There are lots of posts her on wedding bee about lower cost alternatives including backyard, park, JOP weddings etc.

Post # 8
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@julies1949: I agree w Julies1949. My Wedding will cost us under 5k!

Post # 9
26 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

Hugs to you!  I am just starting this process too and we are seriously (90%) close to deciding that we are doing a JOP in July and then a ceremony and reception a year later. I’m still having doubts about not having our immediate family there on the original day, but our immediate family is almost 30 people!

I hope that you are already feeling better with the cyber support of the bees!  Hang in there and try to remember what I seem to tell myself daily…there will be plenty of life left to be stressed, but how many days will you have left to havethe joy of being and “soon to be”???

Post # 10
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Take a break from wedding planning for a few days. Sometimes it gets so overwhelming and it’s really easy to get caught up and feeling dragged under it all. Just walk away from it for a few days. Plan a really fabulous dinner and some down time for you and Fiance, no wedding talk allowed. ((hugs))

Post # 12
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@katiedee: Your dress is gorgeous! I love it!! Seriously, I hated looking at photos of my dress after my fittings. I started wondering if I had made the wrong choice too. But whenever I put it on I remembered why I loved it so much, and in my pro photos I get the warm and fuzzies over it. Don’t stress about it, it’s normal πŸ™‚

Why not do a DW?? If you guys don’t want to do it in Tucson book a cruise or a pretty island resort and run away with a few friends and family! It’s your wedding!

Post # 14
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

It’s okay!!

I felt the same way you did.  My family and my in-laws weren’t interested in helping me plan a wedding, and my hubby had NOOO idea what a wedding entailed… leaving it all on me.  We got into fights and arguments constantly over wedding related stuff just because I was so stressed over planning.  Needless to say, I got extremely discouraged planning.

However, we did end up having a wedding… just hubby and I!  (and the photographer and officiant…)  It was a perfect day for US and that’s what matters.  πŸ™‚

Post # 15
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@katiedee: Awww thanks. But seriously, I did start to have some dress regret and even sometimes when I see gorgeous dresses on here I at least wished I had tried on a hundred dresses just for fun even!! LOL!

Okay. So a dirt-free Tucson venue…. Here are a few I found with NO idea whatsoever about Tucson or your budget, so sorry if these are totally out of whack, LOL!

Wild Horse Ranch

Tanque Verde Ranch

Sky Line Country Club

Ever After Ranch

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