(Closed) Emotional mess- this should have been “the” weekend (sorry its long)

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am so sorry for your loss ((HUGS)).

I know what your family and SO are saying, and I see what you are saying.  Explain to SO that thinking about the ring right now is just to much for you to handle and that you don’t want to think about it this weekend.  I am sure that he will come to understand.  Go and look at the venues and keep those appointments.  The one thing that I am sure your Grandmother wouldn’t want if for you to miss out on a beautiful venue over sadness for her.

I will send you sweet thought to get you through your day.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@Soon2bSykes:  I’m so sorry for your loss.  Like @tksjewelry: said, your grandmother would want you to go ahead and check out venues, but explain to your SO that you wouldn’t be able to share in the excitement and joy of a proposal this weekend after what happened.  I’m sure he will understand.  *hugs*

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss and will second the huge HUGS. 

I second @tksjewelry. Sit down with your SO and tell him that you really love him, you were very much looking foward to this but with your grandmother’s death – that you are really upset you need some time to grieve it and process. Tell him you want to remember your engagement as a happy occasion (mine wasn’t) and.. trust me you do. 

However, if you are really stuck on that venue, I would keep the appointment. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss and will second the huge HUGS. 

I second @tksjewelry. Sit down with your SO and tell him that you really love him, you were very much looking foward to this but with your grandmother’s death – that you are really upset you need some time to grieve it and process. Tell him you want to remember your engagement as a happy occasion (mine wasn’t) and.. trust me you do. 

However, if you are really stuck on that venue, I would keep the appointment. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow that’s a tough blow. I’m so sorry you lost your grandmother. I only have one surviving grandparent as well, my father’s mother, and I hope she is around long enough to see me get engaged and married.

I think postponing the engagement is a good idea. You know it is coming, he has the ring, you are looking at venues. It sounds like it’s all lined up, so waiting a few more days or weeks won’t be too hard. You shouldn’t put your entire life on hold when a loved one passes away. Obviously you must honor and respect their passing in an appropriate way, but I don’t think it’s inappropriate not to look at a venue for your upcoming wedding.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

@Soon2bSykes: I’m so sorry to hear about your grandmother, and I’m sorry that I’m a little late chiming in, wasn’t on the board much this weekend. I hope that your weekend turned out well despite the complication of your grandmother’s passing. I totally understand your sadness and frustration, looking forward to this weekend and the proposal, and then suddenly everything changes. I definitely agree that I would not want my proposal to happen at the same time as a loved one passing, and then to forever have to associate the two to one another. I hope that your SO shifts focus for a little while and gives you time and support to cope with the loss of your grandmother before proposing.  I am thinking of you and sending you hugs!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m very sorry about your grandma.  This is so sad.

 

If you don’t feel up for going, then don’t go.  Or it might be nice to have a change of scenery.  Either way, just talking to your Fiance will help you make the best decision.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Soon2bSykes: So sorry for your loss. Whatever you decide to do, I am sure that your SO will understand and be supportive. Again, I am so very sorry.

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