Post # 1
ok.. i am sitting here listening to a song sample that my ceremony violinist has recommended and i already feel so overwhelmed with emotion and like crying… HOW am i going to chill out and be calm on the big day??
my dad is also a bit of a crier too in emotional situations, so we are just going to be blubbering in the back of the room together.
how are you guys dealing with this??? or have dealt??? i seriously do not want to cry at all!
Post # 3
If you really do not want to cry this is what I usually do: I think about a situation that he did that made me laugh like crazy or I try to picture again how we met. I try not to pay attention to what’s going on beside me if I know that this is something that would make me cry. Just be firm and try to visualize other things and then you’ll be fine.
Post # 5
visualization.. yes.. or maybe i can get the DOC to just be really snotty to me at that moment to get me to focus on that
or my dad and i could just do shots with the bridesmaids ahaha .. we ARE in north carolina after all!
Post # 6
I am hoping like crazy that I will be much calmer on the actual day. The process of music selection also made me really teary… although I find that now (a month later) I can listen to the songs with just a little sniffling. (It doesn’t help that I do too many wedding related tasks way to late at night.)
Post # 7
oh I’m worried about this too! I’m an emotional person in general. A couple of weeks ago we were meeting with our minister and she was going over what the vows mean and why they are so signifigant, and my eyes were already starting to leak.
My only way to combat it, is to try and get lots of sleep the night before (as hard as that is going to be). The more tired I am the more easily I cry. Oh, and of course waterproof mascara and a hankie tucked into my bouquet.
Post # 8
I don’t know if it will work or not but I have been listing to our music over and over again in random places. In the car on the way to the grocery store, on the way home from work, cleaning house, etc. I am hoping it will be so familiar by October that it won’t cause me to completely melt!
I think this strategy might stress some people out but for me the more comfortable and routine things are, the more stable I am. Of course, I could never ask Fiance to recite his vows over and over again to me so there is a slight flaw in my strategy.
I am sure you will be fine!
Post # 9
Anti-zilla! A stiff drink… that’s great. lol!
Post # 10
I’ve been married a little while now, and STILL cry when I hear the song that played when I walked down the aisle.
However, I have to tell you, something happened to me on the day of the wedding. I was so in the zone, I didn’t even hear the song I so carefully picked out! All l I could think about was getting down that aisle to get married, and I didn’t cry at all until our personal vow portion of the ceremony.
When you’re in the dress, and your makeup is all done, the last thing you want to do is mess up the beautiful makeup and not look good in the post-ceremony pics! But have a makeup person on standby just in case so at least the pics will look good and you’ll be fresh for the reception.
Post # 11
I cry so often, I fear it will be impossible to avoid it on the big day. I am so scared of this that my fiance suggested I ask my doctor for a relaxer Rx to calm me down. I am scared to do that because I don’t even like taking Tylenol for a headache, but I am starting to think that’s my only option. I cry at church, I cry at weddings, I even cried when we met with a reception hall banquet manager!!! No matter what I focus on it is inevitable… there will be water works! I am just so emotional regularly that I can only imagine it will be magnified on our wedding day. A good friends of mine shared the secret she used for her big day but I’ve tried it before and it didn’t work. She told me she just kept swallowing really hard while standing at the altar, and also blocked everything surrounding her out, to avoid the tears. I’ve tried that and it doesn’t work, and also I don’t want to block everything out! I want to be able to take everything in and enjoy and appreciate the moment instead of looking like I’m in some type of coma. Oh brother… Good luck to all of you as well!! 🙂