Post # 1
Okay my boyfriend proposed on Vday this year and im overwhelmed with excitement because of course i love him and had been wanting this since i was a little girl, like most girls do. I even started buying wedding magazines and looking at wedding stuff. Is this normal? Do i have issues or something? My man said why talk about wedding things so soon and lets enjoy the engagement. I agree but i cant just sit there! Im excited! The thing that bothers me the most is that we did talk about wedding stuff last night but then embarrassed me today in front of his family saying the things we discussed and kinda making fun of them. He knows im mad and i let him have it. We been together for years so i know he didnt mean to embarrass me but over something so serious hurts my feelings. And then he turns around and asks me about something about the wedding. Idk what to do! Either you want to talk about it or you dont! But also when do you usually set a date after you get engaged or when it the right time to get married after an engagement. Sorry for venting.
Post # 3
You are definitely not crazy! I got engaged in December but we aren’t getting married for another 2 years! I too have been buying wedding books and magazines even though I am no where near ready to begin planning. I think guys just get nervous about all this wedding craziness. He definitely shouldn’t have made fun of you like that though! Maybe now that he knows you were hurt he is just trying to make more of an effort to be on board with the wedding planning!
I think setting a date is totally up to you and your personal time line. Some people begin planning the day they get engaged and others may wait a year or so. There is no answer as to when you should begin planning – just start whenever you both feel ready 🙂 Best of luck to you!
Post # 4
It’s absolutely normal to be excited, the day after I was engaged I probably bought 10 different wedding magazines and was harassing my Fiance about what flowers he liked 🙂
Post # 5
First of all congratulations! Of course you’re excited.
Try to think of it like this – he has probably been excited and/or stressing about the perfect time to ask you for a while, he proposed, you said yes and now, in his eyes – whew! Time to take a breath and relax because the hard part is over!
Now because you were not involved in his proposal planning, for you the build-up and excitement is just beginning – and that’s totally understandable! So try to explain to him that the wedding magazine browing, gazillion idea spouting and wild and random hypotesizing and thinking aloud is part of your way of “enjoying the engagement” (it totally was for me too!) But also realize he probably just wants to take a little time to soak in the moment of having successfully proposed to you without being whisked off into a world of more obligations and decision making.
So you’re not crazy, but no reason to be mad either. Afterall, marriage is about compromise 🙂
Post # 6
thanks so much for the replies! man i feel better now and know that im not loosing it. 🙂
Post # 8
Lol- kinda reminds me of how I was the day I got engaged (Thanksgiving day, 2011). No less than 24 hours after the proposal, I was trying to plan the wedding and even told My Fiance he was not taking the wedding planning seriously (yea just within 24 hours). So I realized, I was being to obsessive and took a step back to enjoy the engagement and let things fall nto place. Our wedding is this October and things are coming along smoothly. I don’t feel at all stressed out, but I am overly obsessed with blogs, magazines, websites, etc. It’s just fun!
Post # 9
Forgot to mention, my Fiance made fun of me too in front of his friends and family! He loves to tell jokes and make people laugh so, he got alot of material out of my obsesiveness! At first it hurt my feelings, but it put things into perspective and I realized that wedding planning is supposed to be fun, not stressful!!
Post # 10
I think I would get a vague date out of him, and then gauge it from there. I’ve been engaged for 8 months and we still don’t have a date, but once we agreed on August 2013 (though we were discussing March 2013 again tonight) I felt a lot better and more like I could relax. I definately got obsessive for a couple weeks and made mock guest lists and everything. Thats all normal. Its hard to figure out when you need to do things without a general idea of the legnth of the engagement. If you’re doing a short (less than 6 months) engagement, then you really do need to jump into planning. If it ends up being longer (more than a year) then you have time to gather ideas. Join pinterest if you haven’t already. Its a great place to gather images you like and organize your wedding ideas.
Post # 11
That’s what the weddingbee is for! Share all those great details with us, and talk about the wedding when your fiance and you need to or when your family asks about it. I’m not even engaged and I am wedding-obsessed, but I’ve managed to keep that a secret from my boyfriend so far. I am afraid that if and when he proposes, it will unleash the floodgates of my wedding knowledge and utterly terrify him. I’m hoping I’ll manage to play it cool, “enjoying the engagement,” as your mom put it, and carefully stagger the discussion. At this point, I might ask about invitation designs 2 minutes after the proposal. I bet you are doing great. Your fiance is just getting used to the new reality of being engaged and planning a wedding. Enjoy!
Post # 12
congratulations 🙂 it is absolutely normal, i have 6/7 wedding magazines already and we aren’t getting married for 3-4 years MINIMUM 🙂 just do what makes you happy, and your Fiance doesn’t have to look at them if he doesn’t want to, but he shouldn’t stop you 🙂 go for it 🙂