(Closed) Emotional Purgatory

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

i think if you found a receipt for a ring, then he probably bought one. just stop stressing about it. he’s probably planning on proposing but you don’t and won’t know when. a lot of guys don’t propose as soon as they get the ring. there have been many stories on here about guys waiting months to propose. it’s usually because they have something planned or want to plan something special. try to get it out of your head for now and go about your daily stuff. you said At this point he doesn’t want me to be his fiancée or wife but wants me to be more then a girlfriend.” but i don’t think that’s true. obviously if he bought a ring, then he does want you to be his fiance and wife. he just hasn’t popped the question yet. 

Post # 4
2640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

I feel for you, since I find myself in a similar situation. Several times in our relationship, I have thought somthing like, “well, if we’re not engaged by our 2 year anniversary, something is wrong and I should leave”. And then “Well, if we’re not engaged by our 3 year anniversary, I’m going to have serious doubts about whether he even wants it.” And so on. We have been together for going on 3.5 years.

And SO is also always telling me to stop worrying about the future so much.

So, what I’m trying to say is that you’re not alone. The difference is, you know he has a ring. I seriously doubt he would go through all of the time, trouble, and expense of buying a ring to turn around and return it. Proposing is not a decision he would make lightly, so just know that he is sure.

He is probably not dropping hints because he wants it to be a surprise!

So, hang in there as best you can, and for the love of all things shiny, do not menton anything about marriage. He wants the proposal to be a surprise, and every time you mention it, he is probably pushing the proposal back. Cruel, I know, but he has your best interests at heart!

We’re here for you! <3

Post # 5
4523 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Impatientlyinlove87:  I agree, he has the ring and is probably trying to throw you off by talking about 6-7 months.  My SO is the type that would tell me he still didnt have the ring but minutes later would propose. I’m sure he wants it to be a suprise. I would stay away from the subject: he would be devastated if in the heat of the moment you accidently let slip that you found the ring reciept.

Post # 6
446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m with the OPs… and sometimes it takes a while to get a ring in.  Maybe he special ordered it or something.  He could also be trying to surprise you and will just whisk you off to dinner one night or something without any warning.  They have to try hard to surprise us, so he’s probably trying to throw you off any chance he has.

The topic ‘Emotional Purgatory’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors