(Closed) Emotional– sorry long.

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 4
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1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m so sorry!  It sucks to think you’re going to spend a holiday together and then you can’t.  I hope Thanksgiving will still be good, but I can understand it’s hard.  I spend Thanksgiving with my fiancé but not Christmas and that’s hard.  Hope things look up for you soon!

Post # 6
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124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Sorry to hear this.  I totally understand wanting to be with your family etc.  If it makes you feel any better, it’s really just circumstance of being long distance from the 2 different families.  AND by circumstance you happened to go to his parents first so your Mother-In-Law was able to coerce him first.  I’m sure if you had gone to your parents first, the outcome may have been different.

I know you’re dissapointed on not being with your family but next year you can go to yours first.  I’m sure he cares about you a lot.  And its actually a positive thing that your Fiance wants to please his mother.  🙂

Hope that helps ….

Post # 7
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7387 posts
Busy Beekeeper

You have every right to be upset. I’m sorry.

Post # 8
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

your emotional yes..because they didnt even bother to ask to see ur ring etc doesnt mean they dont share your happiness..conctrate on making both of them worj together and sharing many many holidays together..

 

dont worry..

Post # 9
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

“Oh. well I was actually hoping to see more of you both. We are going to have family in and I wanted us to have time together.” …… I said fine and we altered plans again

When I dropped him off his mom even tried to guilt me into not seeing my family at all….

rookie mistake – you should have stuck to your original plans (with the exception of grandma & work issues), she worked you like a pro and still had to cause you grief later on

sorry you are so upset, its not fair to try to please everyone else and end up seperated and upset as a result – in future stick to your guns

IF this was me i would have torn Fiance a new one for not meeting my family and supporting me but im that type of person and fortunately he knows when to do the right thing/is easy going. IF i was your family i would consider him not meeting us and making you travel alone as disrespectful – i hope it doesnt cause any more drama for you

Post # 10
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@eloping: I completely agree – your great grandmother is dying and his top priority is what will his mom think? Of course it’s nice to see both families on Thanksgiving, and in this situation I know my husband would intially want to make his mom happy. However, if I said, “I really need you here with me”, he would be there, end of story. And I’d be super pissed right now if I were you that he wasn’t.

Post # 11
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Going forward, you two decide where you will spend your holidays. Put your foot down now.  Try alternating years.  Thanksgiving with his family, Christmas/Hanukkah/Whatever with yours.  Easter/Passover in a tropical location:) Next year, Thanksgiving with your family, Christmas/Hanukkah/Whatever with his.  Easter/Passover in a tropical location:)  Otherwise, you will spend every holiday either separated or angry which defeats the entire purpose.

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