(Closed) Emotional VS Physical Cheating

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Which Do You Think Counts?
    Physical Cheating : (14 votes)
    10 %
    Emotional Cheating : (6 votes)
    4 %
    Both : (107 votes)
    75 %
    Neither : (16 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Emotional cheating beyond a friendship counts. I think you can have a friend you laugh, cry, and confide in who is still JUST a friend. I think both physical and emotional cheating are detrimental in a relationship, though. Hopefully your brother finds a woman who’s open to the idea of that kind of marriage! It sounds very old fashioned, when men took concubines on the side and the women were told to just deal.

    Post # 4
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    To me both of those count as cheating

    Post # 5
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    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My Fi’s closest friend is a female (they’ve known each other since they were 8). I have NO issue with this at all, and certainly would not consider it cehating. However, if he started something new with another woman, I would certainly be leary.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Probably an unpopular opinion, but while I think both are wrong, I do differentiate between physical and emotional.  As in, I think it’s easier to forgive and repair the damage done by an emotional involvement with another than a physical one.  The reason I feel this way is because I’ve had many relationships with male friends in the past that could have easily slipped into that category, were I not careful.  Whereas physical cheating, to me, is a much more conscious betrayal.  People don’t just fall into bed with each other, but they do find themselves in inappropriate relationships with less of an idea how they got there.

    If my Fiance had an emotional relationship with another woman, I would be upset and worry that there was something wrong with our relationship.  But we would get past it and probably emerge stronger than before.

    If he physically cheated on me, I would have a hard time ever getting over the act of betrayal.  And I think that has less to do with the relationship at hand and more with the type of person.

    Just my 2 cents, though I do understand the other point of view.  Let’s hope we never have to deal with it, shall we?

    Post # 9
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    1296 posts
    Bumble bee

    I also agree that both count as cheating.

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    why get married if your going to confide all your emotional feelings and thoughts with some other chick?  

     

    the boning thing … eh that’s self explanitory

    Post # 11
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    565 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    to me…i could forgive emotional cheating.  i wouldn’t be able to forgive physical cheating.

    Post # 12
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    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t really know what “counts” means. I think that its actually important to have meangingful, close relationships outside of your marriage, as long as they are friendships. I also think that sometimes relationships hit rocky points and someone might need to find another place to connect or share their feelings. The rest of your life is a long time to only be emotionally connected to another person. However, if you have agreed to be monogomous there is never a reason why you would need to have sex with someone else. Neither is a complete “deal breaker” for me, though- I think its important to try to work through hard times.

    Post # 13
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I consider both cheating.

    Post # 14
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    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Boyfriend or Best Friend believes emotional cheating is more severe than physical cheating. Before we got back together from a break I had been talking to a few other guys. I wanted to visit one of them and it really made my Boyfriend or Best Friend uncomfortable to the point that we had to talk about our boundaries. He was upset that we were talking, and fortunately the guy backed out on his own when I told him I got back with my Boyfriend or Best Friend. I have no idea how it’d be if he didn’t.

    Other than that, I don’t think I’ve ever been close to the point where I’d cheat. Maybe I’m too chicken to do it or I think about the aftermath too much.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    They both count as cheating to me..

    Post # 16
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    my BFF and the hubs are really close, so yes they talk about things emotionally at times.  Does it bother me? No.  I know that there is an element of trust between us and them, and the only thing that the hubs would want to talk about with her that he couldn’t talk about with me is me.  Now, if he chose to go to someone (even her) on things that we used to talk about but now he felt he couldn’t, then a major flag would go off.  I am the one he should turn to emotionally, and he does. Just the other day he called me from work cuz someone pissed him off, and by the end of the conversation, we were both laughing and he felt so much better.

    Now, physical intimacy of any kind is cheating, period.

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