Post # 1
Is anybody else afraid of no shows/people turning up late, and having a ton of empty seats at te ceremony? I feel like I’d be so sad if I went to walk down the aisle and saw a bunch of unoccupied seats. Any tips to prevent or fix this? can I ask the venue to remove any empty chairs right before ceremony starts?
Post # 3
@AbeeCee123: You’re not going to have a ton of empty seats. Most weddings end up having a few. Most of them will be scattered between groups of people and you really won’t even notice when you walk up the aisle. It’s not really feasible for your venue to take away unused chairs before you walk down the aisle.
Just make sure you have as many chairs as you do people who RSVP yes and you shouldn’t have too many empty chairs on the day of.
Post # 4
When telling the venue your chair count, be sure to remember to exclude from the count you, the groom, the wedding party, and the officiant (unless any of you are actually using chairs). I remember reading about one bride who just used her total attendance/dinner count and had a large wedding party, so they ended up having a lot of extra empty chairs because the wedding party was of course not seated in the audience!
It might be good to have ushers to seat people, as people will naturally leave gaps between themselves and strangers if they seat themselves. if you had ushers seat people without gaps, toward the front, then just some chairs in the back might be empty and that wouldn’t look too bad probably.
Post # 5
Honestly, we had 1/3 of the guestlist no show, and I didn’t even notice at all until at the end of the ceremony when we turned to face out while being introduced as “Mr. and Mrs. Husband Name”.
This is one of those things that will keep you up for nights beforehand, but isn’t even on your radar once you start down the aisle. I think removing chairs would be disruptive. I’d just ask the venue staff to encourage people to sit as far up and as close to the middle as possible, so you don’t have huge gaps right in front. Otherwise, don’t sweat it.
Post # 6
I had a bunch of empty seats, but didn’t notice until walking back down with my husband! Didn’t really phase me though.
Post # 7
@Jennlee: Yes! That bride you read about may have been me! I walked down the aisle feeling a little sad seeing all the empty chairs and it didn’t occur to me until after that I had included many people in the chair count that would not be seated during the ceremony. I had included our entire wedding party, me, the groom, the officiant, the DOC, the photographers, the DJ (all of the above vendors were also dear friends and family). Obviously, none of them were sitting and it made the ceremony look quite empty.
Post # 8
I went to a wedding where this happened. My cousin printed out instructions for all of us to get to the wedding from Mapquest (this is before GPS) but they were to Cottage Circle and not Cottage Street in the same town. He obviously did not look at them before circulating.
I was fortunate enough to have left very early and was able to get directions from a Gas Station when I got to the end and the end was a house with an old guy in a beater observing his neighbors with a beer.
I was one of the only people from my portion of the family there for the ceremony. I was super embarrassed. They made it to the reception and apologized to our cousin about it. They hadn’t even noticed.